Gotta love looking at all those pregnancy experiences on Instagram, where it often seems like pregnancy and parenthood are glorious, joyful, if somewhat messy and sleep-deprivation-inducing experiences. Right? After all, isn’t half of social media dedicated to a barrage of smiling babies eating or learning to crawl, pristine nurseries, and adorable outfits of the day at this point?
But we’ve said it before and we’ll keep shouting it until it hits home: Pregnancy isn’t always a happy (or easy) experience. Plus, for plenty of people, conception alone can feel like the most epic feat. And aside from the anxieties and stressors and (often severe) morning sickness and terrifying genetic testing, between 10-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. Period. We’re talking about devastating losses that can have a lasting physical and emotional impact on the expectant parents — and the mourning and recovery processes look different for everyone involved. So why aren’t more people talking about this?
Miscarriages happen during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy, and more than 80% occur before 12 weeks, according to Tommy’s. This number may be higher, as some people miscarry without knowing they’re pregnant, the Mayo Clinic notes.
While miscarriages affect thousands of pregnant people every year, we don’t always talk about the difficult experiences. However, many celebrities, including Beyoncé, Gabrielle Union, and Demi Moore, are hoping to de-stigmatize miscarriage and spark a conversation about its aftermath by sharing their stories.
Ahead, we’ve gathered some of their insights.
A version of this article was originally published in August 2016.