Sure, technically the national divorce rate is going down (it decreased 18% from 2008 to 2016 — thanks Millennials!) it’s still super common. And as if breakups weren’t complicated enough on their own, getting divorced or otherwise splitting up when there are kids involved? That makes things so much more complicated — and all the more important to keep things civil between the co-parents, for the kids’ sakes.
Parents’ breakups are hard on kids, some of whom may even (wrongly!) feel responsible for their parents’ split, which is the last thing any caring parent wants. This only makes it more crucial to walk kids through the process, support them, and make it clear that nothing they did led to their parents parting ways. And that work doesn’t stop once the divorce is final and the parents are happier on their own; learning the best, healthiest and most kid-focused way to go about co-parenting with an ex is no small task. Luckily, there are resources out there to help (we’ve got tips for talking to kids about divorce as well as an easy guide to child custody and support) and cool celeb co-parents showing a stellar example, too.
Yep, there are plenty of couples out there (even in Hollywood!) who know that the key to co-parenting is parents putting aside their own shit to prioritize their child’s wellbeing. After all, celeb divorces aren’t all drama; they love their kids just as much as we love ours.
Here’s a look at former celebrity couples — from Lisa Bonet and Lenny Kravitz to Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe — who seem to have figured out how to prioritize co-parenting for the sake of the kids.
A version of this article was originally published in August 2016.