Dad-chelor parties for dads-to-be

Jun 27, 2012 at 10:00 a.m. ET

Move over, Mama. Dads now have their own pre-baby bash thanks to the new concept of Dad-chelor Parties, created by Life of Dad founder Tom Riles.


These celebrations speak to what dads love, giving them a fun time before Baby arrives.

Party like a dad-to-be

For moms, there are baby showers and alternatives to celebrate birthing. But beyond co-ed showers, what’s out there to celebrate dads?

Tom Riles, a comedian and founder of Life of Dad, is changing that. He created the concept of Dad-chelor Parties, which are parties for the dad-to-be that celebrates their impending fatherhood with fun that taps into the dad-to-be's personal preferences. Riles’ ’Dad-chelor Squad’ plans and executes the parties. They work with wives or friends to get the celebration just right.

Creating the Dad-chelor Party

So how was this concept birthed, so to speak?

Riles said that after having his daughter he realized that a shift in priorities had led to him not seeing his friends as often as he used to — and he missed them. “A few months later when my buddy’s wife was very pregnant, I decided that all the guys needed to hang out one last time before the baby arrived. The moms-to-be get their baby showers, so the guys need a party too. We brought along a camera that night, and we had ourselves a Dad-chelor Party,” says Riles.

How it works

Sample schedule

5 p.m. – We organized Dan’s best buds to meet down the street from his house where we planned the surprise entrance.

5:15 p.m. – We started marching towards Dan’s house with a 6-foot sandwich, stroller of beer, ice, and diapers.

5:20 p.m. – We surprised Dan at his front door, ran inside, and Dan started funneling a beer.

5:25 p.m. – Dan got the first bite of his giant sandwich.

5:45 p.m. – We began beer relay races on kids bicycles.

6:15 p.m. – Dan, blindfolded in a Pull-up diaper, got a taste of the ‘Beer Luge,’ made from a kid’s slide.

6:20 p.m. – Dan got hosed down, as the beer luge got quite messy.

6:30-8 p.m. – The fun party continued until Dan’s wife came home with their two kids — she was pregnant with their third. It was bath time for the kids, so the party wrapped up. That’s the cool thing... Dan’s wife helped plan this party, so it's all in good fun.

Dad-chelor parties are tailored to the particular dad-to-be’s interests. “If he enjoys gambling, we’ll throw a casino night. If he likes basketball, we’ll try to get him a shoot-a-round on his favorite team’s court. My ’Dad-chelor Squad’ goes above and beyond to make sure every expectant dad gets the party of his life,” says Riles.

Party guests typically bring diapers (in exchange for beer!). But even though gifts aren’t required, sometimes those are given too. “The funniest gift? A breast pump. I’m pretty sure the guy who gave the gift knew that the expectant mom really did need it. The dad-chelor and a bunch of his buddies gave the breast pump a try as the night went on. No milk was produced,” says Riles.

But is it…

Despite the similarity between the name "Dad-chelor Party" and the pre-wedding bachelor parties that we all know about, these shindigs are totally vanilla. The guys won't be off doing anything racy or risqué. “We don’t plan anything that is out of line or could potentially upset the baby mama. Oftentimes, the wives help organize these bashes, as they are so thankful for how helpful their man has been during pregnancy,” says Riles.

What's a Dad-chelor Party look like? Check out the video and find out.

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