If you’re a new parent, you know all too well that life as you once knew it will never be the same. That your marriage will never be the same. That this little life has forever changed you. While most of the changes are good–make that great–there are some changes that you didn’t exactly welcome with open arms. From sleep deprivation to sex deprivation, it is possible to get your life and marriage back on track. It might be hard to see through the fog right now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Read on for the ways to get back on track.
Getting back on track after baby
From sleep deprivation to sex deprivation, it is possible to get your life and marriage back on track. It might be hard to see through the fog right now, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Read on for the ways to get back on track.
How to get your mojo back
It’s not exactly breaking news that if you’ve just had a baby, you aren’t feeling very sexy. So that means you probably don’t feel like doing the horizontal mombo either (even though your husband has been counting down the days until the doc gives you the green light).
But you know the saying “fake it ’til you make it?” Well, that applies here too. We’re not suggesting you fake the big “O,” but rather fake the desire to restart your sex drive. Remember, your husband thinks you’re sexy even when you don’t. So, at first, you might be doing the deed for him and for your relationship. But sooner, not later, you’ll be doing it for you, too.
How to get some sleep
You’ve been in the trenches. You’re exhausted. But when there is a window of time to sleep, you don’t. Instead, you check your email, because you need to communicate with the outside world and find out about those one-day only sales on baby clothes. You do laundry, because if you don’t, you’re positive it will soon need its own zip code. You send thank you letters for all the baby gifts received, because you just can’t be rude. Stop.
It’s time to sleep (or at the very least close your eyes and rest). Your baby will thank you. Your husband will thank you. And most importantly, you will thank you. Here are some simple ways to get much-needed shut eye:
- Sleep when the baby sleeps.
- Make a schedule with your husband. You go to bed early and he takes the late shift or vice versa.
- Accept help. Let your mother-in-law watch the baby.
- Take cat naps. Sometimes twenty to thirty minutes is all you need to get you through.
How to get out of the house with your husband
So now that you’re having sex and sleeping (hey, it’s the power of positive thinking!), you’re no longer looking at everything through bleary eyes. Next up? It’s time to get out of the house. But not to run errands. You and your husband need to go out for a post-baby night out (and then commit to date night). There are a ton of friends and family members that would give anything for a little one-on-one time with your little one– give it to them.
Make a pact that the topic of conversation won’t have anything to do with diapers, pooping or burping.