Candace Cameron Bure: House rules

Yes, she’s that actress — the one who played DJ Tanner on the hit ’80s and ’90s series Full House. But Candace Cameron Bure just happens to be a New York Times bestselling author (Reshaping it all), wife and mother to three children ages 13, 11 and 9, too.

Candace Cameron Bure

Here, Bure talks about the simple but super smart principle that helps her balance the demands of her career with her family’s needs — and what drew her to her latest movie, The Heart of Christmas (GMC, Dec. 4).

SheKnows: You’re on the ABC Family show Make It or Break It, and now you have a new movie. How do you choose your projects?

Cameron Bure: It comes down to my family and my faith as a Christian: Any work I do has to be purposeful, inspiring, family friendly and uplifting. Although sometimes, I choose things that are just plain fun!

SheKnows: You act, you write and you even just launched a website. You’ve got your hands full! How do you balance it all?

Candace Cameron Bure and family

Cameron Bure: What I come back to is this question: At the end of the day, what really matters to me? The answer is always my family. Yes, I want to be a woman of my word and honor my commitments, but when I’m stressed out and on multiple deadlines and I know something’s gotta give, it’s more important for me to love and feed my kids, for example, than to answer one more email. I try to give myself the grace to not do everything perfectly, and remind myself that I am not a failure if I cancel a meeting or decide to turn down a project.

SheKnows: On your website, you write, “Modern women in the trenches of motherhood can feel isolated at times.”

Cameron Bure: Yes! Women are so busy, and our friends are often the first thing to get slashed from the to-do list. But it is so important to get out of the house — even for 30 minutes — and spend time with people who make you feel good. It’s okay to ask for support from your husband and others so you can take care of yourself! I always remind myself that I’ll be a better mom if I do.

SheKnows: The Heart of Christmas is based on the true story of Dax Locke, a 2-year-old whose battle with Leukemia inspired thousands to support him and St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. What drew you to this movie?

Cameron Bure: I’m a sucker for anything that will make me cry. When I read this script, I thought it was sad but so sweet the way Dax Locke’s community rallied around him to give him one last Christmas. It’s something you’d hope all of us would do if presented with the opportunity. In my own life, I support several nonprofits, including Compassion International, because like many Americans, my family is blessed and I want to give as much as I can. I truly believe helping others is what life is all about, and The Heart of Christmas is the perfect example of this.

The Heart of Christmas re-airs on Dec. 18 at 9 a.m. and Dec. 22 at 9 p.m. You can also see Candace on Mommalogues beginning in January, where she’ll be our very own featured celeb Mommaloguer.

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