Becoming a mom is a life-altering experience. But along with the joy of welcoming a baby often comes an unexpected side effect — baby blues. The first few days or weeks after giving birth may feel like an emotional roller coaster as your body deals with both hormonal and physical changes. The good news: These feelings are completely normal, and you’re definitely not alone. Find out how other moms beat the baby blues.
Get your groove back
New mom of one Amber Rhoads, says she had to practically force herself to get frisky with her man for the first time after their son was born. But she knew she had to — for both their sakes. “After nursing my colicky baby all day (and night) the last thing I felt like was sex with my husband. But I sucked it up one night and felt closer to him than I had in months. It was worth it.” Once your doc gives you the okay to bed down, go for it! Set the mood, go slow and before you know it you’ll be back in the game. After all, sex is like riding a bike.
Reconnect with your friends
Charlotte Kanter, mom of three in Atlanta, Georgia, says she felt very alone when she became a mom for the first time. “I was the first of my group of girlfriends to have a baby, and I didn’t think any of them would or could understand what I was going through.” But after she admitted how alone she felt, her girlfriends rallied around her. “They may not have understood exactly what I was going through, but they listened and helped me work it out by just being there for me.”
Find a mom’s group
Many hospitals offer classes/groups for new moms, including moms experiencing baby blues. New mom Marla Portillo says she found solace by hearing other moms’ stories. “I felt like the only one who felt unhappy in the face of the ‘joy of motherhood’,” she says. “I was ashamed, but hearing other moms’ stories helped me understand [baby blues are] a normal part of post-partum and it helped me move past it.”
Finally, if you continune to feel this way for more than two to three weeks after giving birth, seek help from your OB/GYN or midwife. You may be dealing with more than just baby blues — you may be experiencing postpartum depression. Be honest about how you are feeling. A trusted medical professional can diagnose you properly and prescribe the best treatment/assistance to help you move beyond your baby blues or postpartum depression and into the happy place of new motherhood!