Meet Becky Harks of Mommy Wants Vodka
Becky Harks of Mommy Wants Vodka is hands-down one of the funniest people on the planet. Looking for the raw, uncensored truth about any subject from motherhood and antenatal depression to vampires and the under-representation of kumquats in today’s social media? She’s your woman. If you are not already one of her loyal minions, you will be by the time you finish reading this interview. We promise.
What led you to start blogging?
So way back in 2004, I could sense that the Universe needed to know more about my opinions about such matters as "why kumquats are underrepresented in mainstream society" and "why J is the best letter of the alphabet" and decided that the best way to parlay my thoughts was through self-publishing. Okay, that's a joke.
In 2004, I was a college kid who had one email address that had been set up by a friend and included the words "sex" and "kitten," and I only used the internet box to take surveys that could tell me when I'd be married and what my shoe choice said about my relationship style. My then-boyfriend and I had this conversation:
The Daver: "You should start a blog."
Me (twirling hair, imagining myself riding a unicorn): "Um, did you just insult me?"
The Daver: "No."
Me: "What's a 'blob?'"
The Daver: "An online weblog. It's like an online journal where you can write about things -- like your stalker -- and other people read it."
Me: "Um. Does this have to do with video games? Because I do not play video games."
The Daver: *laughs* "No. I mean, it could, but no, you can write about anything."
Me: "This sounds like a bad idea. I'm never starting a blob, ever."
(A couple months later.)
Me: "So about that 'blob'..."
Tidbits about Becky
How did you pick the name Mommy Wants Vodka?
Despite my initial hesitation, I did begin to blog in 2004, although not under the name Mommy Wants Vodka. My initial blog was a push-the-envelope, in-your-face, snarky, sarcastic blog that I authored with a good friend of mine and gained a small, loyal following among our group of friends and spambots. It was absolutely unlike anything I'd seen before.
In 2007, after my second son was born, I realized that while I loved to write (considering I was a very science-driven person, this was a huge thing to admit), I need a space to talk about the other parts of my life too. I couldn't just write about the slap-stick, hilarious bits, because life, well, life isn't always funny, and I needed to find people who understood where I was in my life.
At the time, when I started Mommy Wants Vodka, the only Mommy Blogs I'd found were sugary-sweet, soft-lensed tributes to parenthood in all it's rosy glory. I had an autistic kid and a newborn with colic. I hadn't slept through the night in years. I loved my children, but life was not always rosy.
The name "Mommy Wants Vodka" was an homage to a life that I loved but a life that was neither rosy nor perfect.
How did you get the nickname Aunt Becky?
When I'd started Mommy Wants Vodka, I'd planned to have different tones; different characters in my blog. I even had a couple picked out. "Smoove B," "Becky from the Block," "Aunt Becky," and "Becky, In Real Life," who were all me, of course, but I figured I'd mix it up and change around the way the posts read. Just for kicks.
Oddly, the one that stuck around and the one that people began to refer to me as was "Aunt Becky." So I figured, why not run with it? I'm not an aunt in real life, so I may as well play one on the Internet, right?