Should I start a pregnancy blog?
In this installment of Tough Love, Jill of Scary Mommy offers tips on starting a blog, self-censorship and how to deal with weirdos in general.
Tough Love with Scary Mommy (aka Jill)
I've started a blog to document my pregnancy. I'm really excited about it, but at the same time, I'm afraid of sharing too much information online and I'm worried about putting my baby's picture "out there." There are lots of pervs in the world! I'm also paranoid about all the people I know "in real life" who will read my blog. As I censor myself in every entry, I seriously wonder if I should just hang it up. However, I really want to blog! I want the feedback and support I know is out there. What should I do?
Should you hang it up? In a word, NO. There's your answer.
What? You want me to elaborate? Alrighty then...
Starting a blog was one of the best decisions I ever made. I only began it to see if it would be more successful than my three failed baby books and it certainly has been. But it has also been so, so much more. The support and camaraderie I have found through my blog has been priceless and I wouldn't trade it for the world. It's totally and completely amazing.
Weirdos are everywhere
Sure, they are some sickos that land on my blog using search terms that make me feel like throwing up. But there is also that weird man at the grocery store who freaks me out by staring too long at my daughter. There is the old man who hangs out at the playgroundfor no apparent reason and the bizarre couple who lives down the street.
Weirdos are everywhere, and the ones I actually encounter in my real life bother me a lot more than the ones who live behind a computer screen. My method is simply not to obsess about it, and so far that tactic works.
Should you censor yourself?
It's a bizarre thing, having people you know read your blog. It certainly limits your writing topics. (I learned the hard way that my mother-in-law does not appreciate me poking fun at her and that my friends are pretty paranoid people.)
My personal rule is not to write about identifiable people in my life, but also not to censor myself. After a few bumps at the beginning, it has been working pretty well. I've had many friendships deepen because of things I wrote about on the blog that never would have otherwise come up in conversation. My extended family has gotten to know me in a way they didn't before and even my husband has learned a whole new side of me. The pros far outweigh the cons, and that's reason enough for me to keep writing. And it should be for you as well. Go forth and blog! You won't regret it.