As Chrissy Teigen and John Legend realized that she was losing her pregnancy earlier this year, Legend didn’t at first understand why she wanted to take photos in the hospital, as she revealed in her essay about the experience last month. Now, however, it seems that Legend has realized the extent to which sharing their grief helped them and others who have gone through miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss.
“We’ve heard from so many people who have gone through it too, and it’s been encouraging to be getting so much love and support from so many people who have experienced similar things,” Legend told Entertainment Tonight.
“Chrissy sharing what she shared has also been helpful for other people who are going through it and may go through it in the future.”
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im just thinking a lot about jack today. our house is very open about life, death, grief, everything really. we try to explain things well and answer every question imaginable in a beautiful, spiritual but literal way. I know this is a weird post but I just wanted to share these to always remember my incredibly empathetic little mini. life is infinitely better with her in it. I miss u, jack. we miss you a lot.
This was evident almost immediately after Teigen posted the devastating photos from the hospital — many who had suffered miscarriages came forward to speak of their own losses that they’d kept to themselves until then.
“I lived it, I chose to do it, and more than anything, these photos aren’t for anyone but the people who have lived this or are curious enough to wonder what something like this is like,” Teigen wrote in her essay on Medium. “These photos are only for the people who need them. The thoughts of others do not matter to me.”
It was also so moving to see Legend speak about his loss on live television at the Billboard Music Awards. He also got a tattoo of Jack’s name to match Teigen’s.
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This is for Chrissy. I love and cherish you and our family so much. We’ve experienced the highest highs and lowest lows together. Watching you carry our children has been so moving and humbling. I’m in awe of the strength you’ve shown through the most challenging moments. What an awesome gift it is to be able to bring life into the world. We’ve experienced the miracle, the power and joy of this gift, and now we’ve deeply felt its inherent fragility. I wrote this song because I have faith that as long as we walk this earth, we will hold each other’s hands through every tear, through every up and down, through every test. We promised each other this on our wedding day seven years ago, and every challenge we’ve faced has made that promise more powerful, more resilient. Our love will remain. We will never break. Thank you to everyone who has been sending us prayers and well wishes, flowers, cards, words of comfort and empathy. We feel and appreciate your love and support more than you know. More than anything, we’ve heard so many stories about how so many other families have experienced this pain, often suffering in silence. It’s a club no one wants to be a part of, but it’s comforting to know we’re not alone. I’m sure Chrissy will have much more to say about this when she’s ready. But just know we’re grateful and we’re sending love to all of you and your families.
What’s also been meaningful for many is seeing the way Teigen, Legend, and even daughter Luna, are able to keep Jack in their hearts while returning back to their normal lives. (We assume Miles is a little too young to grasp all of this.) Legend told ET that he thinks it’s important to celebrate the good in life after tragedy.
“Whenever we go through personal challenges — and I think challenges as a nation — I think we have to hold on to what makes us optimistic,” he said. “What makes us hopeful, hold onto the things that bring us joy. And in my family, as we’ve gone through a tough year, we hold onto the fact that we have two beautiful kids that we love and are such a beautiful reflection of who we are and what we value.”
If you or someone you know has experienced a miscarriage, stillbirth, or death of an infant, visit Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support to find local support groups and other resources to help cope through this difficult time.
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