Katy Perry had no illusions about how hard it would be to be a mother before she gave birth to daughter Daisy Dove Bloom in August. She had been quarantining with her young nieces and Orlando Bloom’s son Flynn for months after all. But a tweet Perry posted on Thursday night expressed the sort of revelation all of us go through in the fourth trimester: Being a mother is harder than anyone can know until they try it, and all parents deserve paid family leave.
“Popular misconception: being a mom isn’t a full-time job,” Perry wrote.
This wasn’t just a pity party for herself, though. The pop star made sure she was including all mothers in this realization.
Popular misconception: being a mom isn’t a full time job 🙃🍼🤪
“Part 2: when a mom finally goes back to work (whatever profession they do), it’s not like they been coming from months of ‘time off.’ She’s coming from a full-time job… of being a mom, lol,” she continued.
Then she turned this into something even bigger:
“Part 3: call your mom and tell her you love and appreciate her, and advocate for paid family leave!”
And finally, lest you think this was a complaint about Daisy Dove herself, she added, “Part 4. I love my job.”
Part 4. I love my job.
— KATY PERRY (@katyperry) September 25, 2020
Back in May, Perry spoke to a couple of U.K. radio stations about how much motherhood intimidated her, especially after spending so much time with her 6-year-old and 3-year-old nieces.
“I can be on stage, and I can do this and I can do that, but can I make myself food?” she said on Fleur East’s Hits Radio Breakfast Show. “Can I get up at 6:45 in the morning when my nieces want to come and wake me up?”
Perry also said she used to doubt her own maternal instincts.
“I didn’t know if I could be [a mother], or if I’d have the capacity,” she said. “My sister is the most maternal one in my family, and I’m a logistics strategizer show off, and I didn’t have the maternal gene. So I’ve had to really learn how to have that.”
The good news for Perry is that she has a partner, and probably plenty of staff, to help her out with all of that. We’d like to see her using this journey to speak up for other moms too.
These celebrities have all praised their nannies for helping them through the challenges of parenting.