If you’re parenting during quarantine, you know well that your alone time is precious. In tight living quarters, it can be especially difficult for family members to have their own space while everyone is home all day. One Reddit user wrote a post on the site’s Am I The Asshole (AITA) forum expressing her frustration that her husband wants her to invite their kids into her private space (her “she shed”). However, is he willing to let them into his own “man cave”? Hell no.
“My husband has his man cave. It’s in the basement…NO ONE. Is allowed in,” she wrote on Reddit. “I’m only allowed in to clean (Yayy :/) Everyone has been happy with this arrangement for years. Until now.”
Ma’am, it is my suggestion that you move into your she shed and leave your jerk of a husband to deal with your rude as heck kids for a few days. Get a good lock on that door, stock the fridge with food, and binge on Netflix for a few days. You’re not TA. Mainly your husband is.
— Irreverent Reverend 🙏🏽🦄 (@TheAmberPicota) April 29, 2020
But family tension rose to the surface when she started cleaning her dad’s old r-pod (mini trailer camper) and using it as her own space or “she shed.”
Ultimately, the husband just plain doesn’t want his wife to have a space of her own. He went so far as to make their kids write her letters on why they should share that space with her. “Today my husband told my kids (4 youngest) to write me letters on why they should have my area. And they even (the little ones) started crying. I was so upset with my husband and my kids but I also feel so guilty,“ she wrote.
THIS IS DISPATCH
VAN 0942 EN ROUTE TO COLLECT ONE (1) "I MEASURE HOW MUCH I DISDAIN YOU BY THE SQUARE INCHES YOU DARE TO TAKE UP AND I WILL TURN YOUR OWN KIDS AGAINST YOU TO CRUSH YOU BACK INTO NOTHINGNESS ABUSER"
ETA 26 MINUTES
— Whole Man Disposal Services (@WholeManDispose) April 29, 2020
She pointed out that her kids have a pool, swing set and many other spaces to use around the house. Why should they take the one place that has become necessary for her well-being?
“Everyone including my husband calls me ‘MEAN MOMMY,’” she wrote before asking users if she’s the asshole. Um, no, this poor mom is not even a tiny bit of an asshole. Not the smallest asshole there is. Her husband, though? Different story.
Now, the question remains, how can she convince her husband — and also re-educate her kids that she’s not being a “mean mommy” by needing personal space?
Just like the notion that moms don’t need their space, these stock photos of moms working from home are totally unrealistic.