Tori Spelling has had a lifetime of learning how to deal with people’s opinions of her. The public hasn’t always been kind to the Beverly Hills, 90210 star who happened to be the daughter of the show’s producer, and she’s grown to have something of a sense of humor about that. But now that she has witnessed her son and daughter being bullied, she is not laughing, and we don’t blame her.
“My two 1st born… they have been thru so much bullying I can no longer not share and express ourselves,” the mother of five began an Instagram post, showing son and daughter Liam and Stella when they were toddlers.
Spelling said that when Stella, 11, transitioned to middle school, she was excessively bullied at her old school in Encino, Calif.
“[W]e were told she is acting like ‘Patient zero’ and ‘she’s playing the victim’ & ‘we are talking to the parents of that said bully’ and ‘he is trying to change,'” Spelling wrote of the school’s response. She suspected that because the boy’s parents were big donors to the school, there were few consequences for his actions. Eventually, she moved her daughter to a different school, but the bullying continued.
“This time, my daughter was bullied so bad (including comments about her weight and sexual things he said that my daughter didn’t even know about),” Spelling said. Though the new school expelled this boy, Spelling worries that her daughter will forever associate school with these awful boys.
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My two 1st born… they have been thru so much bullying I can no longer not share and express ourselves – Stella is 11. She was 1 in this pic. Innocent little being that only knew unconditional love, honesty, exploration, & kindness. Her beautiful heart, full of hope. Between her last year at her elementary school or the 1st year at her middle school this human has endured enough bullying for a lifetime. Her old school in Encino, we were told she is acting like “ Patient zero” and “she’s playing the victim” & “ we are talking to the parents of that said bully” and “he is trying to change”. He never did! Never any consequences for his actions towards my daughter and other kids. This child’s parents are on the board of the school. They give a lot of money to this school. Financially, we aren’t able too. So, they won. We then moved kiddos to another school. One, that professed feelings and kindness as a priority. This time, my daughter was bullied so bad ( including comments about her weight and sexual things he said that my daughter didn’t even know about.). This school did the right thing and expelled the boy but the damage had been done. She now associates her education with boys that have been so horrific to her. She wanted to empower others girls and be a business leader. She now has panic attacks and doesn’t want to return to school. This girl, 2 years ago told me she wanted to be President or work to empower women daily. – Liam, my 1st born, is a fiesty funny guy. 2 thumbs up in this pic at 2 years old. He graduated last year from Encino but not without the principal telling us he was “ unmotivated “ & lazy. Poor guy thought from way he was treated by her that he was “stupid”. Beyond not the case. He is a hilarious, smart, outgoing, and a creative kind guy! Then, he started his new middle school. Same school as Stella. He was bullied to the point that he developed severe emotional based headaches and stomach aches. This school ( who did help with Stella’s situation) did not help with Liams. He continued to be bullied so bad we had to leave. Was hesitant to post this bc as celebs we are sometimes judged for having problems others have 😢#worriedmomma
“She wanted to empower other girls and be a business leader,” Spelling said. “She now has panic attacks and doesn’t want to return to school.”
Meanwhile, Stella’s older brother has faced his share of torment too. “He was bullied to the point that he developed severe emotional based headaches and stomach aches,” Spelling said of Liam’s treatment in the same new middle school as Stella. “He continued to be bullied so bad we had to leave.”
Without knowing the details of what both kids are undergoing, we can only extend our sincere hope they can overcome it all with as much aplomb as Donna Martin would have. And Stella and Liam are far from alone: According to the National Center for Educational Statistics, one in five students report being bullied, but more than half don’t even bother to report it.
“Was hesitant to post this bc as celebs we are sometimes judged for having problems others have,” Spelling concluded her post. Though of course there are trolls out there, many have responded to her with stories about their own children, and the post has turned into an impromptu place for parents to support each other.
If you suspect your child is being bullied, there are warning signs you can look for, including having trouble sleeping or expressing excessive shame. As Tori Spelling has discovered, there is no easy solution to this problem. But for some help on the matter, check out the American Psychological Association’s anti-bullying guide for parents, kids, and teachers.