A storm is raging on the parenting site Mom Confessions over a Jan. 20 post by an angry mother on the brink of divorce:
“This is an open letter to my MIL who I am absolutely furious with and her selfish, narcissistic attitude…how hard is it to understand the words that I speak when I say Don’t kiss the baby, Your face is nothing but a walking delivery system of herpes. Herpes. So don’t kiss the babies. I don’t care if your feelings are hurt. I only care about the well being of my child. So that means you keep your herpes infected face away from her,. So please keep running around playing the victim and letting everyone know what a bitch you are. Your own mother is telling you are a selfish bitch for putting your grandchild at risk but still acting like a victim. And you wonder why your son told you that you would never see your grandkids. Because of your selfish needs a 3 week baby has herpes….”
She elaborated to commenters asking for details about her mother-in-law’s actions:
“I didn’t let her hold my child. My husband who can’t seem to get off his mother’s tit did thinking it wouldn’t hurt just the one time. Now our 3 week daughter is in the NICU for 21 days because of his negligence. Yeah he is in the shit too. I absolutely refuse to talk to him.”
The original poster went on to say that she’s now separating from her husband and will be filing for divorce papers unless he agrees to marital counseling over this issue.
Is this mom overreacting? Maybe… but maybe not. We’ve heard of babies catching herpes before. And, hell, if you believed your baby had wound up in the NICU from being smooched by grandma, chances are you’d be pretty furious too.
And then there was that terrible case of the baby who actually died from meningitis after being kissed by someone with a cold sore. That family has spoken out about the dangers of letting well-meaning family and friends kiss infants.
People on social media seem to side with the mama, for the most part:
Don’t kiss a baby… Do I need to explain this? You have NO BUSINESS kissing a baby. Their immune system is not yet fully developed and there is a recent case of a baby having a brain infection because someone with herpes kissed him.
Avoid this totally!
— Aproko Doctor™ (@aproko_doctor) January 21, 2020
Physicians regularly warn people who are feeling sick not to kiss babies, because infants’ immune systems are especially vulnerable to a variety of infections and illnesses. Pediatrician Tiffany Hill of UT Health East Texas spoke with ABC affiliate WFAA to say that babies under the age of six months old are particularly at risk for infections such as RSV, or the respiratory syncytial virus. RSV can cause lung inflammation, bronchitis, and pneumonia in infants as well as toddlers.
So while some may think the mama over at Mom Confessions may be over the top, we completely, completely get where she’s coming from.
In other words? Keep your mouth off the baby, please. Don’t make us say it twice.