She may be a TV personality and a supermodel, but Chrissy Teigen is bummed out that she’s not getting exposure where she desperately craves it: in her family’s photos. The mom of two — Luna, 3, and Miles, 1 — recently trolled her husband, singer John Legend, on social media for his photo-taking (or lack of photo-taking) sins. Teigen frequently posts photos of her hubby and kids — Legend, not so much.
Teigen captioned her Instagram post, “I never have pictures of myself because I am selfless and am the designated photo taker and keeper for my family and no one else seems to care to be thoughtful and take good photos of me. They merely click them off without paying attention to angles or lighting or general photo ambience.”
She added, “but it’s okay. such is the life I chose,” then signed off with “To john.” Consider us deceased. Our queen has once again spoken.
How did Legend respond? One word in the comment thread: “Wow.” We’re hoping that means he got the point.
Teigen’s friends and followers definitely did. Singer Natasha Bedingfield commented, “Every time his dad holds him I pick up the camera and take a snap. He’s gonna think that it was only dad who did all those things with him.”
Another follower wrote, “According to the photos I wasn’t even at my daughter’s first birthday party. Nobody thought to take a picture of me and my 1 year old. I feel this [post] in my bones.”
And still another fan lamented, “Story of my life. I try to use the threat of my possible death to encourage more pictures, but, apparently, that’s not motivation enough. My son will have to be satisfied with our infrequent us-ies, lol.”
One fan encouraged Teigen to read writer Allison Slater Tate’s essay, The Mom Stays in the Picture, about this very issue. Here’s an excerpt: “I’m everywhere in their young lives, and yet I have very few pictures of me with them. Someday I won’t be here — and I don’t know if that someday is tomorrow or thirty or forty or fifty years from now — but I want them to have pictures of me. I want them to see the way I looked at them, see how much I loved them. I am not perfect to look at and I am not perfect to love, but I am perfectly their mother.”
Time to step it up, John. Seriously, all you partners who don’t take photos of your loves with the kids? Consider yourselves on blast. Teigen’s highlighting a very relatable peeve of many moms — yet another emotional labor that’s rarely reciprocated. Yes, she’s being her usual funny self, but her point is valid. We moms want to be in photos with the kids too. So don’t let your children grow up with virtually no pictures of one parent and a zillion of another, okay? It’s just plain rude, and your kids will be pissed off someday that you did such a lousy job documenting their childhood and their beloved other parent (that is, if they do have one — single parents, we volunteer to come to your house and take photos of you because you deserve it, dammit).
We’re with Chrissy: We want equal opportunity photo documentation for all parents, starting now.