Selma Blair has been very open about how her battle with Multiple Sclerosis has affected her life, sharing the ups and downs on Instagram. She’s also been open about the ways in which her nine-year-old son, Arthur, has been there for her on the journey. Blair recently spoke about some of the ways Arthur has been a source of inspiration for her in an interview with People magazine.
“He’s had to endure a lot; he’s seen a lot,” she told the magazine, referencing times her son may have had to see her fall down stairs or rush to a bathroom if she felt sick. But Arthur’s own take on it shows wisdom beyond his years:
“He says, ‘Mommy’s not sick. Mommy’s brave,'” she explained.
Blair has also written about how being a mother to Arthur has helped her in some of her darkest moments of fear, exhaustion, and pain. For Arthur’s birthday on Thursday, July 25, she shared memories of his birth and paralleled them with her current experiences with M.S.
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I slept two hours. There is a pain. In my head. In my throat where the tears start. I want to smell him. Tell him I am so proud of him. Hold him. And I will. Just not on his birthday. Which is today. It was a painful induced labor. He was weeks late according to doctors. I felt fine. He wouldn’t listen. And there was still fluid. But I was pressured , and agreed. Defeated. The inducing was horrific and no dilation. Full labor with no dilation. for 37 hours. I finally asked for an epidural. I was so at their mercy. And I had to protect him. I was scared of motherhood. My friend @juliedesanto , his godmother , drove two hours to be by my side. To hold my stricken face. To tell me I will be a good enough mother. Good enough. And I started to relax. He was born at 1021 this morning. July 25. I even had to fire a doctor who said I needed a c section. And got my beloved dr paul crane back in town to easily deliver our boy. Jason cut the cord and said he looked like me. And now my kid can cut his moms hair and make jokes and assure me just by being him that I am good enough. Even if we aren’t together for this birthday. Which makes tears well, I know he is happy with dad , dancing and playing on the beach later today. What more could I really ask for. Happy birthday. My son. I love you oceans, mama #arthursaintbleick 🖤. @cassblackbird 📸 #cassblackbird
After being pressured into inducing, Blair was in labor for 37 hours. She remembers how she had to fire a doctor who was trying to pressure her into a C-section, and how she already felt protective over her yet-unborn son. After that grueling process, Arthur’s father cut the cord and told Blair the baby looked like her, Blair wrote on Instagram: “He looked like me. And now my kid can cut his mom’s hair and make jokes and assure me just by being him that I am good enough,” she writes. Her recent hair loss, while not a direct side effect of M.S., could be a side effect of the treatments she has been undergoing to treat it.
While Blair also revealed she was sad not to be with Arthur on his birthday, a follow-up post gives hints as to why. Her next post was a photo of her leaving the hospital. In it, she posts her first Instagram picture with her newly shaved head. She also wrote about her most recent treatment, which means she will be immunocompromised for the next three months as a side effect. But the rigorous treatment, and what it could mean for her well-being, is “the best gift I could give to Arthur,” Blair wrote on her Instagram.
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Today is a banner day. I am being discharged from the care of an incredible team of nurses and techs and a visionary Dr. who believes in my healing as much as I do. This has been a process. And will continue to be one. I am immunocompromised for next three months at least. So no kisses please. I wanted to make sure any complications that might arise here were my private space. And we got through brilliantly. I thank you all for your love and support and that extra dose of great with a @people cover. I see things so much more clearly now. And I am excited to share this journey when I am ready. For now, I have recovery. And a great @the_alinker_world so I gotta split. Bye!!!!!! This is the best gift I could give to Arthur. #newimmunesystem #whodis? 🎂