It’s not every day we hear dudes diving into discussions about fertility, including in vitro fertilization. So it was refreshing to hear John Legend’s thoughtful, candid take on the process — and on his 4-year marriage to Chrissy Teigen.
Recently, the singer spoke with Cosmopolitan about the challenges he and Teigen have encountered during their IVF journey. Said adventure has happily has resulted in their now-16-month-old daughter, Luna, who frequents both her parents’ social media accounts regularly (and adorably). Of course, not everyone who undergoes IVF is as lucky.
Legend — a Grammy and an Oscar winner — said that “having a baby is a big challenge for a couple, and going through that together strengthens your bond, because if you make it through [having a child], you know you can make it through anything.”
Legend said he and Teigen are hoping to conceive more kids via IVF — and he feels fortunate to be living in a time when this is an option for their family. “I think it’s especially difficult when you can’t conceive naturally. You want to feel like everything’s working properly and want everything to be perfect, but sometimes it’s not. I wouldn’t say we can’t conceive naturally, but I would say that it’s enough of a challenge where it felt like we needed help,” Legend continued. “We’re lucky that we’re living in an age where we can conceive in other ways. [IVF] brought us Luna and hopefully, it will bring us a few more awesome kids, too.”
Teigen talked to People last year about their decision to have a girl first. “I’ve made this decision. Not only am I having a girl, but I picked the girl from her little embryo,” Teigen explained. “I picked her and was like, ‘Let’s put in the girl.’”
But the couple is planning on a boy too.
Teigen added, “A boy will come along. We’ll get there too, so it’s not like we really have to pick.”
Legend also told Cosmopolitan that he’s got Teigen’s back, no matter what. Recently, Teigen decided she needed to cut back on her alcohol consumption — and Legend couldn’t have been more supportive.
“We discuss everything that’s on our minds. When she was thinking about how she wanted to drink less, we talked about it,” Legend said. “I want her to be happy and to live the fullest, most awesome life she can, and I want us to do it together. Whenever she sets her mind to anything, I always tell her, ‘I want to support you and help you do it.’”
One thing never seems to change. These two are #CoupleGoals all the way, all the time. We’re grateful to them for speaking so openly — as a united, loving team — about their struggles (with infertility and everything else).