An incredibly judgmental photographer apparently ditched one of her clients when the pregnant mom texted to say she’d be delivering via C-section. Check out the tense text exchange, via the Sanctimommy Facebook Group page:
The photographer says that a C-section isn’t birth and goes on to text, “If you decide to give motherhood a go from the get and have an actual birth, let me know and we can reschedule our session.”
And if the phrase “actual birth” hasn’t made you already gasp out loud, the ending might just do it…
“This motherhood job is hard, if I were you I would think twice about starting a job by cutting corners so early in the game.”
Mercy! I’m assuming this photographer is a “she” because she seems to be describing motherhood firsthand — but how could a parent describe any kind of labor as “cutting corners”?! And by no means is having your abdomen cut open some sort of easy shortcut for bringing home a baby.
I’ve had four C-sections. The first time because my baby was way overdue and just didn’t feel like budging. On my second, I tried to have a V-bac (vaginal birth after C-section) but this baby, too, was late and I just couldn’t get past 7 centimeters. And with my twins, doctors required me to have a C-section for the health of my babies.
So does this mean I haven’t had an “actual birth”? I have five messy, spirited, amazing children who seem to indicate otherwise. And if I had decided in advance to have a C-section so I could get my hair highlighted before sacrificing my life to a 7-pound creature for the next 18 years, I would have had the right to do so.
Who knows why this woman is having a C-section? Maybe her doctor insisted on it. Maybe it was to protect the health of her child. Maybe she preferred it. Maybe it’s not really anyone’s business how she gives birth. Although in the text exchange, she says she didn’t “opt for anything.”
But it is an actual birth… that she would like photographed. And I’m positive she will find a wonderful photographer to document this beautiful, life-altering event. As for this mean-spirited photographer, she should focus less on birth-shaming women and more on capturing the beauty of life.