Pregnant Amber Tamblyn's essay on motherhood speaks for all moms

Oct 27, 2016 at 11:39 a.m. ET
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Actress Amber Tamblyn and her husband, actor and comedian David Cross, are expecting their first child together — a baby girl.

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It's lovely news for the couple, who married in 2012 after five years together, but what's really caught our attention is the essay on motherhood Tamblyn wrote for Glamour.

Tamblyn revealed her experience of sexual assault at the hands of an ex-partner, and described sharing the attack with her mother, who also shared her own tale of sexual assault. When her mother told her own mother — Tamblyn's grandmother — what had happened to her, the older woman's response was simply, "Boys will be boys."

"Motherhood has been heavily on my mind because I am going to be a mother soon," Tamblyn wrote. "I’m pregnant, with a daughter on the way. I think constantly about the world I am bringing her into. Will I get a phone call from my daughter someday, one she never wanted to make? Will I have to share with her my story, and the story of her great-grandmother’s words to her grandmother?"

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Tamblyn isn't the only mom to have similar concerns about their own daughters, particularly against the current political backdrop. What kind of message does it send to our girls — and boys — when the potential future president of the United States openly admits to assaulting women and thinks nothing of making crude, sexist, misogynistic remarks about women?

"Is it possible to protect her from inheriting this pain?" she wrote. "How much do I have to do, as a daughter and a soon-to-be mother, to change not just the conversation about how women are seen, but the language with which conversations are spoken in?"

Tamblyn also commented on the fact that society appears to be placing unrealistic expectations on Democratic candidate Hillary Clinton.

"After I’m done writing this, I’ll go back to my desk and fill out my absentee ballot. I’ll be voting for more than just a woman; I’ll be voting for a revolutionary idea," she continued. "I’ll be voting for a future for my daughter where conversations about our bodies and our lives are broader than what value they have for men."

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Tamblyn's essay echoes the hopes of so many mothers, not just in the U.S., but all around the world. A hope that our daughters and sons will grow up thinking it's crazy that we ever thought a female president was revolutionary. A hope that we can focus on bringing our daughters up to fulfill their greatest potential and not worry about warning them about our sons.