Busy Philipps' comment about her kids makes people uneasy, and it should
Celebrity parents are just like us, right down to the things they worry about when it comes to their kids' futures. In an interview for the online summer 2016 issue of Mini Magazine, Busy Philipps got brutally honestly when talking about what worries her most about raising daughters, and reminds us of the importance of talking about tough topics with our kids, even if they're uncomfortable.
The former Cougar Town star has a 7-year-old daughter named Birdie Leigh and a 3-year-old daughter named Cricket Pearl with screenwriter-producer husband Marc Silverstein. Like every mom, Philipps is constantly in mom mode. She admits to being in the middle of an exercise class and suddenly being struck by the fear that she forgot to lock the pool gate back at home. We've all had moments like this. But beyond the day-to-day worries, as parents, we also have bigger fears.
When asked what worries her most about being a parent, Philipps didn't deflect with an answer about her girls learning to drive or discovering makeup. While she admits that it's a dark response, she said her greatest fear is that one of her daughters will be sexually assaulted. While Philipps plans to talk to her daughters about the idea of consent from a young age, she says knowing the statistics still make it a very real fear for her.
Some are calling Philipps weird for talking openly about such a topic, but her fear is far from unfounded. One out of every 6 women in the United States has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. And females between the ages of 16 and 19 are four times more likely than the rest of the population to be the victims of rape, sexual assault or attempted rape.
We can make sure we lock the gate to the pool, monitor how much screen time they get or sneak veggies into our kids' mac and cheese all we want, but at the end of the day, Philipps is right. There are dangers out there we can't protect our children from; we can only try to prepare them or work to prevent them, and that is scary.
Shedding a light on the fact that parents worry about the possibility that their daughters might one day be sexually assaulted isn't weird — it's the sad reality of the world we live in. And starting the conversation about consent with your kids from a young age might be awkward or uncomfortable, but if it leads to our kids growing up with a clear understanding of what the word "no" means, then it's worth it.
Philipps hopes the topic of sexual assault will continue to become less taboo as her kids grow up and that schools and college campuses take significant steps to educate students on the issue. But until then, it's on us parents to talk about it with our kids. We already talk about farts and Pokemon and where babies come from. What's one more tricky conversation, especially when it's this important?