Nearly two weeks after reality television star Courtney Stodden suffered a miscarriage, the reality star has come out on Instagram to talk about the pain of loss. Stodden and her husband, Doug Hutchison, who appeared together on VH1’s Couples Therapy, had announced in May that they were expecting their first child. Then in mid-June came the sad news that she’d miscarried.
In a statement earlier this month, their rep called for respect for the couple’s privacy after the devastating loss, saying they were “at an an emotional loss for words and are using this time to grieve with their close family and friends.” And who could blame them? Though Stodden has typically been drawn to the spotlight in the past, this is a time when many couples simply must grieve in private.
The decision to come out now — even if it is just a letter on Instagram — is brave, and the words are not surprisingly moving:
No matter how far along you are in a pregnancy, the minute you see those two lines on a stick, your world changes. You begin dreaming of the child’s life and how yours will be forever changed. To have that cruelly snapped away before you’re able to even hold that child is one of the hardest things a couple will ever face.
Sadly, many face it. Statistics show that between 10 and 25 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage — most of them in the first 13 weeks. While there are some steps women can take to help prevent them, such as exercising regularly, not smoking, keeping their abdomen safe and avoiding infectious diseases, in many cases the cause is a chromosomal abnormality, and there’s nothing that could have been done.
Fortunately many women go on to have healthy pregnancies after a miscarriage — rainbow babies, as they’re known. While that thought can be comforting, it still doesn’t ease the pain of the immediate loss.
Hopefully the couple is getting the support they need at this time from family, friends and/or professionals. Our thoughts are with them.
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