Women aren’t the only ones who pick out baby names long before they’re ever pregnant. On last night’s episode of Keeping Up With The Kardashians, it was revealed that Rob Kardashian has been thinking about names for his kid before he was ever expecting one with Blac Chyna.
In the episode itself, Rob can be heard joking with his family about having a son, adding that his son’s name is “Robert the Third.” Of course, this is all a silly coincidence that may or may not reveal what Rob and fiancee Blac Chyna actually plan to name their child.
But it is indicative of the fact that it’s not just women who think about their future kiddos, even though we’re stereotypically portrayed that way.
Just as there are women and girls who never think about what their future kids may be like (and many who don’t want to have kids at all), there are men out there who daydream about the children they will have one day. For every stereotype of a woman who can’t wait to be a mother, there are men out there who can’t wait to be fathers, though they’re often erased from the dialogue.
And what a man decides to name his kid may matter a whole lot to him. There are plenty of mothers who name their kid the third or the fourth because it is very important to their husband that the tradition live on. Just like other aspects of heritage, culture or family tradition, giving an offspring a name that reflects family history may be significant to a father.
The popularly held idea that parenthood is only something that women dream about is not only archaic and harmful, it’s flat out inaccurate. It also erases all the gay men who fight to become parents — there’s no women in their relationship and they still pursue fatherhood.
It would be great to see more room in the public dialogue for men to talk about their desire to be fathers one day and to share the fact that it’s something they think about and plan for. As it stands now, we only ask men if they’re excited about fatherhood once their partner is already expecting, or when they’ve recently had a baby.
Not everyone wants to be a parent, and that’s valid. But of the people who do, it’s not just women. Rob Kardashian is evidence of that. And we’ll just have to wait and see whether he really welcomes Robert Kardashian III into the world or not.