By now, anyone who hasn’t been in a coma or living in a cave off the grid has heard of Beyoncé’s Lemonade. Unfortunately, fans’ witch hunt to discover the identity of the mysterious Becky, the woman who Beyoncé’s lyrics suggest Jay Z cheated on her with, has been dominating headlines. First, the Beyhive trolled the social media accounts of designer Rachel Roy and even the Food Network’s Rachael Ray, convinced that one of them was the “Becky with the good hair” named in a song about infidelity on Beyoncé’s new visual album. Now, author Karrine Steffans has come forward, claiming that she was in fact one of several Beckys with good hair — which makes you wonder how many more women claiming to be Becky are out there. How long is this thing going to last?
But while everyone seems wrapped up in the Becky drama, the Carter family themselves seem to be getting along just fine. TMZ just released an adorable video of Jay Z and his daughter Blue Ivy dancing happily backstage as Beyoncé belted out “End of Time” during the Tampa leg of her tour. And at the end of her tour, Beyoncé was sure to thank her “beautiful husband” and her family for supporting her.
Though the world may be frantically combing through Beyoncé’s lyrics, looking for hints that her family life is shaky, you can feel the love when you see Jay Z dancing with his daughter to her mom’s music. But he’s been getting a lot of heat lately. Fans mistaking fake Instagram accounts for Jay Z’s official one have been showing the rapper their wrath, shaming him for his alleged affair with some Becky, calling him a piece of shit and writing that Beyoncé deserves better.
Why can’t fans accept that Beyoncé and her family could actually be happy? Unfortunately, Lemonade is prompting many fans to embrace a mob mentality and tear down both Jay Z and other women. Rachel Roy dealt with comments on her Instagram telling her that her career was over and even suggesting that she kill herself. And both Roy and Ray have had plenty of women calling them whores and sluts this whole time.
Maybe we should try looking at things a little differently. In Lemonade, Beyoncé powerfully channels the hardships women often have to confront and overcome in their relationships and family life. Fans are forgetting that there are strong themes of forgiveness and redemption in Lemonade, too. “Baptize me… now that reconciliation is possible. If we’re gonna heal, let it be glorious,” Beyoncé recites in one song. And, of course, forgiveness is going to look different for everyone. For some mothers, it might just mean accepting that while your child’s father is a lousy partner, he’s a great dad.
Rather than taking the album at face value and seeing it as a call to arms to smash cheaters and other women with bats, fans could try being happy for the Carter family. Did Jay Z cheat on Beyoncé? I honestly don’t care, because it’s not my business. But let’s say he did, and he’s now proving himself to be a good husband and loving father. If that’s the case, then power to the couple for holding their family together and emerging stronger than ever.
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