Fuller House star Candace Cameron Bure should be on top of the world after the successful premiere of her new show and landing a gig as a panelist on The View, but instead she’s come under fire for how she disciplines her children.
Bure has allegedly admitted to using the same controversial parenting strategies as the Duggar family. According to The Hollywood Gossip, Bure wrote in a 2004 blog post that has since been deleted: “The books that guideline raising our children are the Bible, Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp and To Train Up a Child by Michael & Debi Pearl. My parenting tip of the day is consistency; it’s key.”
Consistency sounds like a good parenting strategy, so what’s so controversial about Bure’s methods? It turns out the Pearl method uses strict corporal punishment to train children into total obedience. At least three children have died, allegedly from the methods advocated by the Pearls, and their recommendations read like a horror film.
Some of the discipline techniques the Pearls teach have been well documented by Alicia Bayer for The Examiner. These methods include:
- Using plastic plumbing tubing to beat children
- Wearing the plastic tubing around the parent’s neck as a constant reminder to obey
- “Swatting” babies as young as 6 months old with instruments such as “a 12-inch willowy branch,” thinner plastic tubing or a wooden spoon
- “Blanket training” babies by hitting them with an instrument if they try to crawl off a blanket on the floor
- Beating older children with rulers, paddles, belts and larger tree branches
- “Training” children with pain before they even disobey to teach total obedience
- Giving cold-water baths, putting children outside in cold weather and withholding meals as discipline
- Hosing off children who have potty training accidents
- Inflicting punishment until a child is “without breath to complain”
While Bure allows her children far more freedom than the Duggar parents do, who are known for their highly conservative approaches, she has spoken openly about her use of corporal punishment and the importance of being a “tough” parent. An article she wrote, “Intentional Parenting,” talks about the importance of using punishment to create “boundaries” for children.
She briefly mentions using spanking when her children were younger but doesn’t elaborate further. Instead she encourages parents to get creative and find punishments that work for their kids, such as withholding all of her teenage daughter’s clothing for a few months.
Unless Bure decides to speak out about how she used the Pearl method, it’s unlikely we will find out just how far she took the book’s recommendations with her own children. Still, it is telling that these books are the ones she has endorsed.
If you’re looking for a good book about disciplining your children, these definitely aren’t the ones we recommend.
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