Model's brave confession about beauty is one every kid should hear (VIDEO)

Nov 16, 2015 at 10:00 a.m. ET
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When Charli Howard wrote an angry letter to the modeling agency that told her she was too big to get work, a lot of parents took notice.

At 5 feet 8 inches and 105 pounds, the British model is far from big. And that's why she told her agency in no uncertain words that she was done with a fashion industry that put insane pressure on women to fit absurd ideals.

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As she said in her viral — and eloquent — letter: "I refuse to feel ashamed and upset on a daily basis for not meeting your ridiculous, unobtainable beauty standards."

They're standards that every parent dreads their child trying to obtain. Right about the time your kids hit the age when they start expressing their own fashion choices, moms are hit with a conundrum: how to teach our kids that they're more than their clothing size.

After all, studies have shown us that the numbers sewn into the back of our clothes have a real effect on our emotions, kids included. In one study out of the University of North Texas, the researcher found fitting into smaller sizes — not surprisingly — makes women feel better. And in another study of teenage girls ages 12 to 17 whose bodies put them in the "plus-size" category, researchers found the kids often felt left out because major retailers don't carry clothes that fit them.

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So how do you teach your kids that they're more than a number?

Howard thinks she can help.

She's spearheading a campaign to help folks — especially kids — look not at the number on a pair of jeans, but inside. To kick off #MoreThanaNumber, she sat down with one of SheKnows's Hatch kids to talk about Photoshopping, being yourself and of course, being more than a number: 



It's important to sit down with your kids and explain that what it is they see in magazines does not represent reality... not even for most of the models depicted. But a model knows what she looks like in real life. Our kids don't... unless we talk to them.

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Charli Howard
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And while it's fun to play at make believe, the fact is, reality is so much better:

Charli Howard
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After all...

Charli Howard
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So what's YOUR number? Is it the number of miles you've run? The number of siblings you have? Or something entirely different?

Share it with #MoreThanaNumber!