Can your own insecurity about your looks carry over to your kids? Farrah Abraham has had several plastic surgery procedures and recently revealed that not only does her 6-year-old daughter want plastic surgery, but the Teen Mom star would be supportive of it.
Abraham, who is currently appearing on the UK’s Celebrity Big Brother, recently revealed that she would understand if Sophia wanted plastic surgery when she was older, telling RadarOnline: “I know in the future I can be supportive and just educate her on anything she has questions about. So when Sophia is at the age where she wants her teeth to be cosmetically done or maybe get a breast augmentation, or she is questioning, ‘Hey mom, I envision myself like this, I’m not myself,’ of course I am going to be supportive and make her feel loved and like herself.”
Abraham, 24 — who has gone through several plastic surgery procedures, including two breast augmentations a nose job, a chin implant, cheek fillers and lip injections — went on to say that plastic surgery makes her feel “whole” and “I love that and I need that.”
It is fine for a grown woman to make decisions about her body, but can that insecurity and focus on outer beauty be passed down to our kids? Case in point, Abraham — who admitted that her daughter felt “insecure” after losing her baby teeth.
“My little Sophia, she’s been going through a hard time right now losing all of her teeth, and she’s not really so secure,” she told Us Weekly this summer. “I think it’s really a struggle losing your teeth right now when everyone’s looking at looks. So, she lost her first big tooth, and she’s just like, ‘Mommy, I want teeth like yours!’ and I’ve had my teeth cosmetically done, so they’re looking pretty perfect.”
The fact that she is feeling insecure over this normal childhood rite of passage says a lot about the emphasis that Abraham is putting on looks in her household. It is important for our children to see us parents take care of ourselves by eating right and exercising — however, isn’t it just as important for us to teach them the value of kindness, strength, resilience and inner beauty?
What are we teaching our children if we make them believe that their inner value is determined by having the “perfect nose” or overly enhanced lips? Not only is it pretty darn boring for everyone to look the exact same, but it is teaching them to not embrace their individuality and that their self worth is tied to their outer appearance.
In fact, perhaps us moms should make a point to compliment ourselves in front our kids for some traits that make us stand out. Point out that you love that you both have the same nose, which is just like Grandma Jean’s, or that the feature that attracted your husband to you was your crooked smile or wavy hair.
What else could we unknowingly be passing on to our kids when we bash our looks and possibly get a nose job, for example, when they too have that same nose?
Tell us: Do you think our plastic surgery can affect our children’s perception of their own looks?