Give your kids a head start by helping them find their strengths (VIDEO)

Jun 15, 2015 at 12:00 p.m. ET

Trying new things is scary, but it's an important part of life — especially for our kids.

As parents, the last thing we want is to see our children hurting. For that reason, it can be tempting to hold them back from trying something we're not sure they'll be great at. Unfortunately, you might be doing them more harm than good.

Our Hatch kids know this, and they talk about it in their newest video, created with the help of New York Life's Keep Good Going campaign.

"I think that if you never failed, you would never really succeed, you would never really grow," said one Hatch kid. "Failure allows for growth."

Encourage your children to seek out new opportunities and challenges, and give them the courage to accept their challenges head on. If they succeed, they may have stumbled onto a new strength they didn't even know they had. If they fail, you've been given an opportunity to discuss an important life lesson.

Instead of using failure as a reason not to try, teach your kids to use it as a reason to try again. Use the opportunity of a loss or a setback to talk to your children about the freedom to fail, and what they gain from trying and failing, versus not trying at all.

If you're not sure where to start when looking for something new for your children to try, set aside a block of time to help them take the StrengthsFinder 2.0 Test. This test is designed to help you identify five skills or strengths they already possess. That valuable bit of info will go a long way toward helping them use those existing strengths to uncover other untapped potential.

And remember, moms, your kids are taking their cues from you. If you want your kids to be brave in the face of life's challenges, you have to soldier on through the tough stuff, too. According to a study for the Girls Leadership Institute, 83.9 percent of moms believe you must allow yourself the freedom to fail in order to succeed. However, that same study found that a whopping 69.2 percent of moms avoid taking challenges where they might not succeed. What kind of example are we setting for our children, ladies?

You can learn more about helping your kids explore their strengths and use their failures as building blocks with the Hatch activity PDF here.

This post was brought to you by New York Life.

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