Following the death of much loved British actor Bob Hoskins this week his daughter Rosa has revealed the 11 life lessons he gave her.
Tributes have been flooding in for Bob Hoskins following his death from pneumonia on Tuesday. One of the U.K.’s most beloved actors, Bob’s career spanned four decades and included roles in Who Framed Roger Rabbit, The Long Good Friday, Mona Lisa, Hook and Snow White and the Hunstman.
Bob Hoskins retired from acting in 2012 following his Parkinson’s diagnosis >>
Bob’s daughter Rosa, 30, said this week that she loved her father “to the ends of the earth” and shared the 11 life lessons he had taught her. She added that his advice wasn’t “general wisdom” and was tailor-made just for her but we think Bob’s life lessons can be adapted for any young woman.
Bob Hoskins’ 11 life lessons for his daughter Rosa
1. Laugh. There’s humour to be found everywhere, even on your darkest days there’s something to have a joke about. Laugh long and loud and make other people laugh. It’s good for you.
We agree: laughter should be at the top of the list. Often the unexpected moments are the funniest and they help us get through life’s trials.
2. Be yourself. If someone doesn’t like you they’re either stupid , blind or they’ve got bad taste. Accept who you are; you’ve got no one else to be. Don’t try to change yourself, there’s no point. Don’t apologise. Don’t make excuses. Be yourself and if anyone else doesn’t like it they can f*** off.
We’d like to add to this don’t apologise for being yourself but be prepared to offer an apology when one is due. It takes a strong person to be able to admit when they’re wrong and try to make amends.
3. Be flamboyant, it’s who you are and always have been. Be eccentric and unique. Don’t try to adapt yourself to someone else’s view of normal. That belongs to them, not you. Like yourself as who you are.
This applies even if you don’t class yourself as flamboyant. Try to love your true self, whether you’re extrovert, introvert or somewhere in between.
4. Don’t worry about other people’s opinions. Everyone’s a critic but ultimately what they say only matters if you let it. Don’t believe your own press. People can just as easily sing your praises as they can tear you down. Don’t waste your time on things you can’t change. Let it slide off you like water off a duck’s back.
Growing a thick skin is easier for some people than others. But by focusing on the positive rather than the negative, you can become a happier person.
5. Get angry. It’s OK to lose your temper now and then. If anger stays in, it turns to poison and makes you bitter and sad. Get angry, say your peace, then let it go.
Also don’t go to bed on a row. Try to make amends with your partner, friend or relative before your head hits the pillow. It’s always better to start the day free of bad feelings.
6. Whatever you do, always give it a good go. Don’t be afraid of failure and disappointment. If you fall flat on your face then get straight back up. You’ll always regret not trying. Disappointment is temporary, regret is forever.
This reminds us of a Nelson Mandela quote: “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
7. Be generous and kind because you can’t take it with you. When you’ve got something to give, give it without hesitation.
Treat others as you want them to treat you. Pay it forward.
8. Appreciate beauty, take pictures and make memories. Capture it, you never know when it’ll be gone.
No matter how busy your life is, take a few moments each day to appreciate what you have: your children, your health, your friendships.
9. Don’t take yourself too seriously. People who take themselves too seriously are boring.
This goes back to Bob’s first lesson. Learn to laugh at yourself.
10. Never, ever, ever, ever give up. Keep on punching no matter what you’re up against. You’re only defeated if you give up, so don’t give up.
However, in some cases, the bravest course of action is to admit when things aren’t working. Learn from the experience and move on.
11. Love with all your heart. In the end, love is the only thing that matters.
Spot on, Bob.