8 Steamy Sex Tips for People in Long-Distance Relationships

by Ashley Papa
Nov 16, 2017 at 5:00 p.m. ET

When you and your partner live hundreds to thousands of miles apart, it’s a lot harder to satisfy that desire for sex than if you lived together or just across town from each other.  Those in long-distance relationships know all about this, and kudos to you for making it work, as we all know how hard LDRs are. 

You and your one and only have already figured out how to keep the relationship going, but you might still be due for a makeover when it comes to your LDR sex life — because there is only so much phone sex one can have.  Here are some tried-and-true ways you and your long-distance partner have got to try.

1 /8: Cybersex often

1/8 :Cybersex often

At the most basic level in keeping your sex life steamy if you’re in an LDR, there is sending photos and videos through our phones or through a more temporary method, such as Snapchat, as well as interfacing on Skype or FaceTime, suggests sex therapist, Dr. Rachel Allyn.  “Having a visual — being able to see a person's face and body — is ideal. Hearing one's voice is a close second, with texts typically being the least erotic method.” 

2 /8: Get yourself some toys

2/8 :Get yourself some toys

It can be fun and sexy and alleviate that sexual tension you have while apart. 

Matie Fricker, owner of the feminist sex shop, Self Serve Toys, who also happens to be in a long-distance relationship herself, says to get yourself some vibrators, like the Wanderlust, for those nights when you’re missing your boo.  

3 /8: Send a sexy subscription box

3/8 :Send a sexy subscription box

Places like Unbound curate sexual wellness items into subscription boxes that are tailored to different experiences and sexual exploration.  All items are high quality and body safe, says its founder, Polly Rodriguez.  She recommends sending Unbound's couples box to get your partner excited for the next time you'll be together or even the G-spot box to encourage your partner to indulge more in solo play and potentially even use for video/phone sex.

4 /8: Long-distance sex toys

4/8 :Long-distance sex toys

Have sex toys advanced or what?  We-Vibe’s Sync, for example, takes cybersex to a whole other level.  It’s just one of the many sex toys that allow one partner to use the sex toy while the other partner controls it through a mobile app. “You can share in the experience together. Although only one of you is stimulated with the sex toy, it’s still a sexy way to keep your LDR steamy,” says Kayla Lords, a sexpert for Jack and Jill.

5 /8: Teledildonics

5/8 :Teledildonics

Similar to the sex toys controlled by an app, products like Kiiroo’s couples set are meant for both partners.  It uses smart technology and teledildonics to allow both partners to experience sexual stimulation at the same time, explains Lords. The Onyx is used for a partner with a penis, and the Pearl is meant for a partner with a vulva — which means that any couple can use the sex toy that works for their body. “When you use it together (regardless of the distance between you), the power of virtual reality allows you to “feel” your partner through the sex toy you have in your hand.” 

6 /8: Erotic books & games

6/8 :Erotic books & games

Buy a book of erotica and read it over the phone to each other or get ideas about phone sex.  Or get yourself a pair of fun and sexy dice.  Whatever you and your partner roll, they have to do, even if it is just virtually.  

7 /8: Send your panties

7/8 :Send your panties

There’s nothing sexier than sending your partner a pair of your favorite panties.  They’re one of the most intimate gifts because nobody gets to see you in them besides you and your partner.  Sending them a pair of your favorite — or their favorite — is like sending them a little piece of you.  You can even take this a sexy step forward by first wearing the panties and then sending them.  Who doesn’t love the natural smell of their partner?

8 /8: Clone your privates for your bae

8/8 :Clone your privates for your bae

Almost as good as the real thing, the Clone-a-Pussy vagina-casting kit allows anyone with a vagina to create an exact replica of the outer portion of their vagina for their partner.  It’s sexy, fun and totally safe.  When you’re back together, you can even use it with foreplay. 

Bottom line: When you finally see each other make it HOT

Long-distance relationships can create high-stakes expectations. You don't need to give each other the biggest orgasms of your lives the moment you step off the plane, but make sure you’re making up for that lost time together. And then when you or your lover has to depart again, the memory of the passionate sex will stay in their mind.