Do you feel like you’re the last single girl standing? Are most of your friends married and even having kids? If you’re starting to wonder (or even panic) about when you’ll finally meet the one and get married, take a deep breath and read on for our list of single girl don’ts.
Don’t buy into the stigma
How could we forget that infamous Newsweek article that declared that a single, college-educated 40-year-old woman was more likely to die in a terrorist attack than ever walk down the aisle? It’s stigmas like this that many single women understandably think about in their low moments — those times when they wonder when (or if!) it will happen for them. Especially when most (or all ) of your friends are married with kids. Or when you look around at social gatherings, parties, restaurants and feel as if you’re the last single girl standing. It’s simply not true. You will meet your mate. It just might not be on the same timeline as your friends.
Don’t feel pressure
Of course it’s easier said than done. Especially when your mom is asking when you’re going to freeze your eggs. But not allowing yourself to succumb to the pressure from others to get married and have kids is important. The only person you need to listen to is you.
Don’t get discouraged
Being the only single person at a dinner party or the only one at a baby shower without kids can definitely get old. But it’s not cause to let yourself get down. Sure there are times when you want to scream Charlotte’s famous line from Sex and The City, “I’ve been dating since I was 15. I’m tired. Where is he?” And of course you’re allowed to have these moments whenever you want. But remember that your time will come. And while you’re waiting, live it up!
Don’t forget about the benefits of being single
Don’t forget about the many positives of not being in a relationship. You can have whatever side of the bed you want. You can date around. You don’t have to be home at any certain time. Your life is completely your own. And once you get married and have kids, that will never completely be the case again. So live it up — while you still can!
Do you really want what they have?
Have you considered if you really want what your married friends have or if you just feel like you should have it because society puts pressure on you to feel this way? Many of the marriages and relationships you’re looking at from the outside may not be as rosy as they appear. Remember that marriage is hard work, so taking your time finding the right person to spend your life with is key.
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