Online dating profile red flags

Mar 30, 2012 at 8:00 a.m. ET

Feeling no love in the online dating department? Don’t give up hope. There are likely some simple reasons you aren’t getting the response you were hoping for. Let us help get you back on track and ideally, on the fast track to a web love connection!

Unhappy woman viewing her dating profile

Online profile red flag #1: Not enough photos

You’ve heard it before and you’ll hear it again, but trust us, the fact that you need multiple photos bears repeating. Guys will skip over your online profile or only give it a cursory glance if you only have one, fuzzy pic that looks like you scanned it from an old yearbook. You need at least five to get noticed, more to really ramp up the amount of views.

Quick tip

Have a male friend (or very honest female friend) help you choose your pics. That way you know you’re adding the best ones – the ones sure to make a positive impression.

Online profile red flag #2: Generic wording

With so many dating profiles out there on multiple online dating platforms, you need to get creative when describing yourself or you won’t stand out. Words like ‘nice,’ ‘great,’ ‘fun,’ or ‘cool’ don’t mean anything because they are far too generic. If you want to catch someone’s attention, you need to get more specific with how you describe yourself.

Not sure where to start? The best advice we can offer is to write your online profile as if you were talking to a good friend – someone you’re super comfortable with. How would you describe yourself to her? How would she describe you? That’s a great way to get the ball rolling.

Quick tip

It may help to write out a rough draft first and have a couple of friends read it over. They can make sure your final copy is sharp, funny and perfect for getting some attention.

Online profile red flag #3: No full body shot

Without a full body photo, your profile is often as good as invisible. Let’s face it; guys want to see what they’re getting into (and if you’re honest, you’d likely want to see what a guy you’re interested in has to offer, too). So if you find your online profile is getting passed over, it’s time to add one or two full-length photos. Choose one where you are doing something – laughing with friends at the beach, playing a sport, and one where you’re standing still. Just make sure to choose your most flattering angles.

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