3 Ways to take your marriage from good to great

Apr 25, 2012 at 12:00 p.m. ET

Improving your marriage doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, there are actually some simple tips to give your partnership a boost. We put together three of the easiest ways to take your relationship from good to great.

Couple talking about relationship

Be open and honest

The more open and honest you are with your spouse, the stronger your relationship will be. It can be easy to let things go unmentioned, but making an effort to talk will often go a long way in giving your marriage the boost it needs. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about everything that comes up. No topic should be off limits. Making an effort to talk through any issues that arise can also help minimize conflict. Learn to listen and communicate instead of fighting.

Work as a team

One of the most important ways to get your marriage on track and running smoothly is to work as a team. This means agreeing to work together to solve anything that comes up. Don't get stuck on who's right or wrong; instead focus on what will solve the problem. When you build a successful working partnership, both of you will feel supported and respected by the other (which is key). When each person feels that the other has their best interests at heart, problems are solved in a way that leaves both parties happy with the solution. This type of partnership creates an environment of love and trust rather than resentment or anger.

Stay connected

It’s so easy to let everyday life get in the way of intimacy. Stress, household chores, long hours at work and any number of daily responsibilities leave little time for talking, let alone connecting in a way that really keeps you close as a couple. Make an effort to connect in as many different ways as much as possible. Nothing keeps your marriage running smoothly quite like maintaining intimacy. Keep your connection going through communication, sex, affection, understanding and concern for one another.

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