If last year was filled with more duds than dashing princes, it’s time to turn your dating life around. Start the New Year off on a high note with our tips for meeting the guys you want to date – not getting stuck with the ones you don’t.
Find new places to meet men
If the bar has lost its luster as a place to meet guys and the last time you agreed to a blind date you had to fake an emergency just to escape, it’s time to find some new avenues for meeting men. This means including some more activities in your life that provide the opportunity to interact with new people. Join a co-ed sports league, take a class that interests you (anything from language studies to photography to rock climbing) or do some volunteering. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it will be to meet like-minded men who you could potentially connect with.
If you don’t ask, you don’t get. This may sound overly simplistic, but it’s true. If you don’t make some bold moves when it comes to guys who interest you, you may never get the chance to get to know them. So if you like someone, let him know. Or if that sounds too scary (we understand, doing the asking isn’t easy), simply flirt more! If you’ve shied away from flirting in the past, it’s time to start. Being even a little bit bolder when it comes to meeting guys can go a long way in helping you meet your match.
Even if you don’t feel confident, fake it. Smile, stand up straight with your shoulders back, make eye contact and avoid fidgeting. He never has to know you feel uneasy on the inside – simply present a confident front.
Know what you don’t want
While keeping an open mind when it comes to dating is important, it’s equally beneficial to know what you don’t want in a guy. Make a list of traits that just won’t cut it or deal breakers and keep those in mind this year when you’re on your search for Mr. Right. This can be anything from being too negative, overly materialistic, mean and disrespectful – whatever you can’t stand in a guy. Knowing what you don’t want can help you avoid dating disaster or wasting time with men who don’t deserve you.
Don’t pressure yourself
Meeting Mr. Right will happen; just don’t force it. This year is your year to relax, to have fun meeting new and interesting guys and ideally in the process, to find one you really like. Putting too much pressure on yourself to end up in a relationship is no fun and puts you at risk for settling for a guy who’s not right for you. The harder you try to meet the right guy, the slower the process will be. On the other hand, the more relaxed you are, the more likely you are to stumble into something worth pursuing.