Sometimes it can be hard to tell whether or not a new relationship is going to work out. It doesn’t help that you fall for people that end up being fundamentally wrong for you. So how do you tell whether the guy you’re with is worth keeping around – or someone who just isn’t right for you? To help ease the potential confusion, we have come up with three red flags that do a pretty good job at indicating you may be dating the wrong guy.
You have totally different goals
One of the biggest and most important indicators that your relationship might not work out is how compatible (or incompatible) your goals are. We’re not talking about the little things, like the fact that he’s saving for a new car and you’ve set your sights on the hottest bag of the season. No, we’re referring to the big, life-type goals. For example, if you know you want kids and he’s sworn never to procreate – you have a problem. Or, if he plans on eventually moving back to his (tiny, middle-of-nowhere) home town and you can’t stand the thought of living anywhere but the city, expect roadblocks as time goes on. If you can compromise, great, but if the person you’re with is holding fast to their future plans (and they in no way jive with your own), it might be time to part ways.
You never really talk
Contrary to widespread belief, sex is only one part of a healthy relationship. It feels great and we recommend getting a lot of it, but by no means can it be the only thing sustaining your relationship. If you are past the beginning “all sex, all the time” phase of your relationship, but still have very little in the way of deep, meaningful conversation, you could very well be dating the wrong guy. Conversation – the real kind where you discuss feelings and hopes and dreams – is a key ingredient to building a bond with someone. If you don’t have those sorts of heart-on-the-table conversations – ever – you’re not in the right relationship. As much as it’s a physical connection, a good relationship should also allow you to connect on a deeper emotional level. Take stock of your current situation if your only connection thus far has been in the bedroom.
He doesn’t like your friends and vice versa
While your BFF doesn’t necessarily need to be BFFs with your guy, if none of your friends like him, or he doesn’t get along with any of the people you hold dear, you could be wasting your time. The same goes for his friends. You don’t need to like or get along with all of them, but if you steer clear whenever any of them are around, there is a serious problem that needs addressing. One of the best parts of being in a relationship that makes you happy is merging your closest circle with his. That doesn’t mean you no longer have separate friends or do things without one another, but having dinner parties with both of your besties is fun! Having to entirely separate your life as a couple from your life outside your twosome is never a good thing.