3 Love myths to ditch now

Nov 2, 2011 at 9:00 a.m. ET

Myths about love abound. It’s easy to buy into the fairytale that Prince Charming is waiting around the corner or the next frog we meet is actually Mr. Right in disguise, but there’s only so much merit to what we’ve learned from storybooks and Hollywood happy endings. Love is a wonderful thing, but there are certain beliefs about it that can hinder, rather than improve, your life. We’ve dissected three common but outdated love myths and why they should be taken out of circulation.

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Finding Mr. Right will complete you

There's nothing wrong with wanting to find someone who inspires you to be the best version of yourself, but believing that you need a man to feel "whole" or "complete" is just plain silly. If anything, you should want your partner to be your equal – someone who loves you for who you are, not some magical puzzle piece that will help everything in your life fall into place. Love is many things but it's not a cure for all the issues in your life that need to be dealt with. In fact, if you don't deal with your own issues – whether personal, financial, emotional – you will likely have a tough time finding a suitable partner. Before you start wishing on a star for Prince Charming to show up and save you, learn to be a strong, happy person on your own, minus the need for a guy to hold you up.

Marriage is everything

While marriage is very special and finding someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with is a truly fantastic feeling, it should not be your most important goal in life. There is a lot of pressure placed on women to get the ring and walk down the aisle in the big, white dress (just pick up any chick lit book or watch any romantic comedy to see what we mean), but marriage isn't the be all and end all of life. Your life should be about much more than hoping to one day plan a wedding – that can by all means be part of the plan, just not the only goal. Why? Because there is more to life than finding a husband, like accomplishing your individual goals (getting the job you've always wanted, competing in a triathlon, traveling the world), developing strong friendships, learning as much as you can and loving yourself at every stage of your life (boyfriend or not).

Being single sucks

Getting dumped sucks, breakups suck, but being single does not suck. There's nothing wrong with flying solo, and the more you fear being alone, the more likely you are to remain in a relationship that isn't working or jump into a relationship with the wrong guy. Instead, focus on all the things you can do when you're not in a relationship. You can see your friends more, meet new friends, work on improving yourself, do the things that your last boyfriend hated and push yourself to try new things. Being single doesn't suck – in fact it can be a great time to learn about yourself and become a better person.

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