All relationships require effort to keep them going, but tuning up your twosome isn’t as hard as you might think. If you feel like you and your man need a little boost, we’re here to help. We’ve come up with a five day, no-fail plan to take your relationship from lackluster to loved-up in less than a week.
Recreate your favorite date
We want to make sure your week of relationship maintenance starts on a high note, so we suggest recreating your favorite or most memorable date. It’s a fun and effective way to get your twosome back on track and ready for a whole new start. Think back to a date that really stands out – whether it was your very first one, your fifth or something you did just a few years ago that really made you happy. Now do your best to recreate the experience to the best of your ability. It doesn’t have to be exact – the point is merely to recapture a feeling or certain emotion brought on by that date. This project will help you get into the headspace needed to work on your relationship. Mainly it will be a reminder of why you’re together and why you want to make what you have even better.
Go somewhere totally new
Today it’s time to bust out of relationship boredom, and the easiest way to do that is to go somewhere neither of you has ever been. Maybe it’s a restaurant, a wine bar or maybe it’s a museum exhibit or gallery space you’ve been meaning to check out. The point is to force yourselves out of your mutual comfort zone by doing something fresh and new. It can be so easy to do the same things day in and day out that you forget there are other options. This exercise will help you realize there are plenty of new and different things to do – you just have to get out there and find them.
Create romance at home
Turn off the TV, put your laptop away and hide your iPhone – tonight is all about creating romance at home. You may be tired from work but that doesn’t mean you and your man can’t have a perfectly lovely time together, at home, sans distractions. Open up a bottle of wine, cook dinner together or even order from your favorite takeout place, but make sure you light some candles, eat at the dinner table and spend some time talking and reconnecting. Just because you’re not “out on a date” doesn’t mean you can’t have a romantic evening.
Solve lingering problems
Today it’s time to clear the air and deal with any issues that either of you have swept under the rug. Make a list of all the little things you’ve been meaning to discuss with your guy and have him do the same. Agree that this might sting a little (no one wants to be told they’re doing something another person doesn’t like) and go through your lists of outstanding relationship grievances. You might be tempted to get offended, but try to keep an open mind. This exercise is meant to lighten your emotional load and help the two of you function much better as a team.
Devise some shared goals
One of the most important ways to strengthen your relationship is to have some shared ambitions. Sit down together after dinner and discuss some of the things you’d both really like to do. Whether it’s buying a new house, renovating the one you have, taking a trip or learning to sail, agree on a goal and then start coming up with a plan to make it happen. Having a common goal will bring you closer and help boost your bond in the long term.