If you’ve ever felt a great connection with a guy and then been stunned when he stopped returning your calls, you’re not alone. One of the most frustrating things about dating is getting the cold shoulder out of the blue, just when you thought things were going well. If this sounds like your current situation, or you’ve been there before, to help ease your mind, we’ve put together some of the more common reasons he fled the scene.
He found someone else
This one will hurt the most but it can sometimes be the most obvious reason a guy cuts and runs just when you thought he was going to stick around. Either he had someone he was hoping to hook up with while biding his time with you, or he simply met someone he fell harder for while he was getting to know you. We know it sucks but it does happen and it is often the most plausible explanation for why a guy abruptly stopped calling.
You were too dependent
Sometimes guys like to feel like they are the center of your world whereas other guys get freaked out when you get too close too soon. Being too clingy with a guy you just started dating is very risky (even if you just thought you were being honest about how much you liked him). So if the guy you liked pulled a disappearing act for what felt like no reason, he could have been feeling like you were already too dependent on him.
He was scared to get too serious
Even when things are going well, and you and your new guy were really getting along before he unexpectedly said sayonara, he could have been afraid of getting too close. This means that he was falling fast and got freaked out by his own feelings, which in some ways is a consolation (he really did like you), but whatever he was feeling caused him to split, leaving you to wonder what went wrong. If he was too scared to get serious, there was nothing you could have done to change that. It’s an issue he’ll have to work out on his own – it’s just too bad you had to get hurt before he did.
He was on the rebound
Guys on the rebound can seem like they’re really into you – and they often are, but the problem is they’re also trying to get over or forget about someone else while they’re with you, making you merely a distraction. Once they’re sufficiently distracted, they move on, leaving you in a haze of confusion and frustration. So be wary of guys who are just coming out of intense long-term relationships. They may think they’re ready to move on, but often they need more time to adjust to life without their ex than they think they do.
He was never serious to begin with
Sometimes a fling is just a fling. Yes it sucks if you started to feel like it was more than a several-night stand, but there isn’t much you can do if he was never interested in starting something serious. Some guys just want to have a good time, and it’s not that they didn’t like you or that they didn’t enjoy spending time with you – they just unfortunately didn’t let their emotions get in the way of their fun and probably didn’t actually realize that you were putting more stock into the situation.