5 Expert tips for wedding-day bliss

Aug 1, 2011 at 10:25 a.m. ET

You’ve been dreaming of this moment your whole life, so of course you want to do everything in your power to make your wedding day picture-perfect. Here are a few great tips for ensuring wedding-day bliss.

Happy couple on wedding day

1Hire a wedding planner.

Wedding planners understand the inner workings of the wedding industry and know intimately how to negotiate with vendors for the best prices and deals. In fact, many wedding planners are so confident in their skills that they guarantee they can save you the cost of their services. And best of all, they are skilled at talking to couples and turning their visions of wedding-day bliss into reality.

The last thing you want to be doing on your wedding day is worrying if all the details will come together and run smoothly. Mary Lee Herrington of Forever & Ever Events explains, "Savor each moment of your wedding, including the planning. Enjoy your time as an engaged couple. Focus on your life, your job and the fun things (like picking out your dress and shoes). Planning your wedding should be a celebration unto itself, not a mad rush. And that's the real value that a wedding planner brings, not just the savings that they pass on to you from their professional relationships."

2Pack a wedding-day survival kit.

Don't get caught in a bind on your wedding day: Pack a wedding-day survival kit with all the essentials to combat any wedding snafu, from tummy troubles and stained gowns to broken straps and blistered feet. Check out our DIY guide to preparing your own wedding day survival kit and keep the magic alive on your special day.

3Schedule bachelor & bachelorette activities a week early.

One of the worst wedding traditions imaginable is throwing the bachelor and bachelorette parties the night before the wedding. Sure, one last night of frivolity and fun with your buddies before you walk down the aisle is great in theory; in reality, all it does is steal sleep from the bride and groom, who are already beyond exhausted.

Do yourself a favor and request that your maid of honor and best man hold your activities at least a week before your big day. That way, you can truly enjoy watching those Chippendales instead of spending the whole night wishing you were snoozing in your bed.

4Take time to de-stress.

Stress is one of the biggest factors about which couples complain while planning a wedding. Wedding planning stress can come from many sources. Whether you're worried about pleasing difficult family members, planning a fairytale wedding on a shoestring budget or simply seeking wedding-day perfection, stress can destroy all the fun in what should be a wonderful time for you and your fiancé. Take time out to de-stress and enjoy the fun of turning your dreams into reality.

Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway, author of Wedding Goddess: A Divine Guide to Transforming Wedding Stress Into Wedding Bliss, talks about combating wedding-planning stress: "A bride has to include stress management, self-nurturing and time to chill out as an integral part of her wedding planning process. When you feel the stress building, take time out, go for a walk, slip into a movie, get a massage, go for a manicure, write in a journal, do something un-wedding. You have to love, honor and cherish yourself if you want to be loved, honored and cherished by someone else."

5Don't sweat the small stuff.

No matter how many hours you've spent dreaming, planning and working your fingers to the bone to make your wedding picture perfect, something is bound to go a little haywire on your big day. Don't let the little glitches throw you off. Remember: Nothing in life is perfect, and your wedding day is no different. Rather than focusing on the negatives, embrace the beauty in the imperfections and enjoy the ride. Remember that your wedding is just a symbol of something much bigger.

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