How to rev up your sex life
Add some excitement to your sex life and connect with your partner by being open-minded and honest about what you want in the bedroom. Whether married for years or only dating for a few months, everyone can use a few sex tips now and then to keep things interesting. We talked to Dr Eric Braverman, author of Younger (Sexier) You, and he offered these tips to rev up your sex life.
Keep your clothes on
Indulge in fully clothed foreplay, teasing and stroking your bodies through fabric. You're building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it'll be that much more explosive and exciting.
Learn the art of erotic touch
You'll need some oil and a well-heated room. Warm the oil in the palms of your hands and experiment with your partner to learn where he or she likes to be massaged.
Create the mood
Aromatherapy, music, soft lighting, candles, even different textures and revealing clothing really do alter your brain chemistry by triggering your senses. If you surround yourself with calm and peace for at least a portion of every day, you'll accelerate the restoration of your acetylcholine.
Try Allura or Zestra
These non-prescription topical treatments are used by many women to improve sexual arousal. They can be applied to the clitoris, labia and vaginal opening during foreplay to increase both the speed of nerve conduction and the blood flow to the genitals. It takes about three to five minutes of application and gentle massage, and its affect can last as long as 45 minutes.
Do some yoga
Yoga breathing before lovemaking can increase arousal. There's no simpler way to oxygenate the blood, a process that increases sexual energy and elevates desire. Take rapid, rhythmic, and shallow breaths through the nose. Keep your mouth closed. Breathe this way for one to three minutes.
Keep things exciting
Rev up your sex life with these additional tips and tricks:
- Try a new sex position every week
- Only have sex with the lights on
- Lie in bed naked together and just kiss
- Experiment with a sex toy and a bottle of lube
- Act out one of your sexual fantasies with your partner
- Concentrate on the foreplay rather than intercourse
- Talk to your partner in bed about what you want him/her to do to you