Feel more comfortable talking about sex

Jun 2, 2011 at 10:56 a.m. ET

Most of the time, having sex is a lot easier than talking about it. Being open and honest about what rocks your world -- and what doesn’t -- can make a huge difference in the quality of your sex life, though. To help you feel more at ease discussing sex with your significant other, we’ve come up with a few simple yet effective tips for better sexy-time talk.

Couple having discussion


Start small.

You don't have to start off sharing every racy fantasy you've ever had. Start small by telling your guy what you enjoy: how the morning quickies are a great way to start your day or how his massages really relax you before you slide between the sheets. The key is to realize talking about sex is OK and shouldn't be a source of embarrassment or discomfort.

2Pick the right time.

Talking about sex is similar to actually having it in that the mood needs to be just right. Find a time when you're feeling happy, loose and confident. Alternatively, when you're feeling down or tired or like the only thing you want to do is watch TV, you may not be ready to start talking about sex.

3Discuss with a BFF first.

If you're having a hard time getting over your inhibitions about sex talk with your guy, start by discussing anything you might want to say to him with your BFF. Actually getting your thoughts out of your head and into the open can help you realize that what you want to say isn't embarrassing or weird at all. Chances are, your bet bud feels the same way or knows someone who does.

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