The ultimate guide to dating
If you're single and dating, you know that meeting someone with whom you connect is difficult -- and maintaining that connection is even harder. The rules of dating are constantly shifting, and keeping track of all the do's and don’ts is next to impossible. To give you a better idea of how to navigate the dating pool without drowning, SheKnows got the inside scoop from Match.com relationship expert Whitney Casey.
listen more, talk less.
Match.com relationship expert Whitney Casey advises against spending too much time talking about yourself, which can actually put a damper on any connection the two of you might have. Taming your urge to talk is tough, especially when you're nervous, but Casey suggests thinking of the date as a job interview with cocktails. "If you know you want the job, you'd better learn a lot about the company," she says. "You can't do that if all you are doing is talking about yourself."
Ask the right questions.
Focus on questions about personal, overarching topics rather than work, Casey says. She warns that when men hear the question, "What do you do for work?" what they actually hear is, "How much do you make?" Because you don't want to come off as a gold digger, Casey suggests asking questions such as "What was your best meal ever?" and "What did you do for your 21st birthday?" -- things that will truly help you get to know him as a person, not a bank account.
Showing too much skin on your first (or even second) date is never a good idea. Casey suggests being selective in your approach. Pick one asset you love about your body and flaunt that (legs, breasts, shoulders, booty, etc), but choose only one, not three. If things go well, you will have other dates on which to reveal other assets. Casey adds, "If you can't think of what you like about your body and what to flaunt, then you shouldn't go on the date at all! Men love self-confidence. Flaunt that first."
be at your best.
Having one successful date is great, but there's a lot of pressure where following up is concerned. Casey advises treating the first 10 dates like they're all the very first. "What you wear, how you smell and what you look like matter to men. If they see you put your best foot forward for your first few dates and then peter out later, they think you don't care," she explains, adding that men always want to think you are trying for them. Doing little things that will make it look like you're still trying. "Shave, shower, primp, pluck and preen. Always," Casey says.