Why you're going after the wrong guys

Feb 22, 2011 at 4:10 p.m. ET

There comes a time in every single girl’s life when she must take a long, hard look at the parade of men who haven’t worked out. We break down some of the reasons you're continually attracted to Mr. Wrong.

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You have low self esteem.

You may not realize it, but a lack in the confidence department can have a profound effect on the types of guys you pursue. If you don't think highly of yourself, you don't go after guys with relationship potential; instead, you end up with men who can't commit and who are just in it for a good time. If you want to meet a better crop of guys, work on boosting your self esteem and falling in love with yourself first.

Also: Check out how to know if he's just a hookup >>

2You don't want to commit.

If you're not ready or you're scared to make a love leap, complaining about all the duds you're meeting is easier than going after someone who's actually boyfriend material. If this sounds like you, take a deeper look at why you might not be ready for long-term love.

Also: Check out 8 signs you're falling for someone >>

3You don't know what you want.

While you shouldn't be too picky (you might miss out on something great if your scope is too narrow), you should have a loose idea of what you're looking for in a partner. Try making a list and revisiting it before and after you go out on dates to see how you're progressing.

Read more about finding love: Understanding what you need >>

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