Sometimes when you’re married or in a long-term relationship, single friends can make comments about never wanting to be tied down (like you are). Commitment can be seen as the beginning of a long adulthood where flirting is replaced with fights over who has to take out the trash. Sure, relationships have their ups and downs, but here’s a look at where your single friends are wrong about long-term love.
Sex is mundane
There are many people out there who assume sex gets boring once you’re in a long-term relationship. But sex is only as good as you make it. If you and your partner love each other, though you might have nights where you’re not in the mood, sliding between the sheets need not be boring. In fact, we’re willing to bet that more than a few married couples could make their single pals blush with what goes on in the bedroom. And between sex toys, naughty videos and new positions to try, how can sex really be mundane?
There’s no excitement
If you’re in a solid relationship, with someone you respect and admire, there will always be something new to learn about them. One of the best things about long-term love is watching your partner grow and improve as a person – something you don’t get to see after only a few dates. Loving someone also means sharing in their successes, which is always special and exciting to see, no matter how long you’ve been together.
You end up in a rut
Marriage and commitment is what you make it, so if you don’t want to end up in a rut (and who does?), you’re going to put the effort into trying new things with your partner. Whether you commit to taking a trip somewhere new every year or never going to the same restaurant twice in a row, there are countless ways you can keep your relationship fresh and fun.
The passion peters out
Yes, passion can leave a relationship in a puff of smoke, but any relationship where passion disappears probably wasn’t meant to be. In the case of most long-term twosomes, commitment doesn’t mean living a passionless existence. Knowing someone is there for you and being there for them is a pretty sexy perk of being in a relationship. Lust fades, but passion is something that can be cultivated as you learn more and more about each other.
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