You’re in a new relationship, he seems like a decent guy, but you’re just not sure if it’s going to work out. In order to better assess if he’s worth your time, use our guide to relationship red flags.
He doesn’t show you any respect
One of the cornerstones of a good relationship is mutual respect. You have to respect each other in order to take your twosome to the next level. If he doesn’t respect you or what you do, you may want to rethink your relationship. If he scoffs at your job, your interests or how you behave, you can tell him to head for the hills, because that negative behavior probably won’t change.
He belittles you
Couples tease each other all the time, but if his teasing crosses the line – hurts your feelings, happens when you’re out in groups – take that as a sign to move on. Belittling you in front of your friends or family is a low blow and shouldn’t happen. You can try telling him to lay off the cruel humor, but if he continues to make you feel bad about yourself, he’s a dud.
He thinks you’re his maid
If you have to do all the laundry, all the cooking and cleaning and every other household task without him even offering to lift a finger, your relationship might not be off to a good start. Definitely try asking him to share responsibilities, but if he doesn’t take kindly to your suggestion he pull his own weight, he may not be the man for you. One person shouldn’t have to do everything while the other does nothing to help.
He’s a financial burden
Lending him a few dollars here and there is fine, or more if he proves he can pay it back in a timely fashion, but if your new man is always borrowing money, asking you to buy all the dinners out and pick up the tab on groceries he’s going to eat, put your purse away and cut your losses. Being generous is one thing, but who pays for what should be shared equally in a relationship whenever possible.