To keep a marriage bond strong and healthy, it needs to be fed — and the best way is for husband and wife to spend quality time together. That means dates! Sure, scheduling time for the two of you can be nearly impossible, with demanding work responsibilities, kids’ schedules and that oh-so-needed “me time,” but prioritizing couple time can make the rest of those things fall more easily into place. So get creative with your calendar and pen in a date night at least once a month so you and your honey can take advantage of these fun ideas.
First date re-enactment
Walking down memory lane is fun, and it allows you and your spouse to reconnect to your simpler selves, before life got complicated. Revisiting the destination of your first date and all of the memories that go along with it will rekindle those pure, loving feelings — and that can be a great marriage booster shot.
Whether it’s an 80s movie marathon (complete with pigs-in-blankets and your best feathered hair), an international foodie afternoon on which you taste-test your way through your favorite country’s foods, or activities that start with the letter “B,” you two will have a blast creating and executing a fun theme.
Nothing brings out great energy between spouses like good ol’ fashioned playtime. So next Date Night, skip the heels and skinny jeans and opt instead for Converse and a ponytail — because you are headed for an evening of bowling, mini-golf, roller skating or just simply doing the monkey bars at the playground with a sunset picnic.
Lock and load your husband’s calendar with preset sex dates. These could be morning, noon or night, or even middle of the night… weekday or weekend. Indicate them with a capital S, a heart or something naughtier that no one else can decode. Then, when the time comes, go all out for your sexcapade: Think romantic bubble bath, wild costume, new toy and so on. Both of you will be anticipating this date for days, which will create the longest foreplay session you’ve ever had.
Even in the most temperate of climates, the seasons change noticeably. Consider celebrating these changes with dates that pay tribute to them. For example, in the fall, go to a thrift store and try on vintage Halloween costumes. Come winter, build a gingerbread house. In spring, plant a garden, and in the summer, relax and unwind (or make out) under the stars at a drive-in theater.
For the couple who never has time to date, each of you should make a list of seven to 10 everyday things that you do, such as picking up the kids from school, folding laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, yardwork, walking the dog and so on. Then, swap lists and circle three things you would like to do together once a week (or bi-weekly, if that is more feasible). Mundane activities can become intimate moments when you include your spouse, not to mention probably get stuff done twice as fast.
Every once in a while, spontaneously skip out on work and every other responsibility in the world and just enjoy each other. Kick back and relax watching a few DVDs, take naps all day, camp out at the movie theater or just stare into each other’s eyes until the kids come home. Time spent impulsively together can be more romantic than perfectly crafted dates.
This date is a three parter. First, head out to the bookstore and find a sex book that inspires you both. Perhaps it is one on the art of Zen or Kama Sutra sex, or maybe on aphrodisiacs. Whatever your mutual pleasure, buy it and then head off to whatever store — grocery, sex, natural food or otherwise — to pick up the goodies you will need to bring the pages of the book you just bought to life. Then, head home and put your research to work.
Adventure road trip
Pack a bag, a map, a cooler filled with favorite snacks, a camera and your sense of adventure, and hit the open road to who knows where! On this day-long (or overnight, if you can swing it) roadtrip, the journey is more important than the destination. Just enjoy exploring with each other, taking in the scenes and the great conversation.
DIY spa night
Nothing says TLC like pure pampering. Prepare a deluxe spa right in the comfort of your own home, and leave no detail untouched. Include relaxing music, scented candles, soft lighting and all of the tools you will need for sensual massages, mani/pedis, facials, footrubs, bubbly baths and whatever else your bodies desire.
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