Is my libido too low? The Best Sex of Your Life

Mar 5, 2010 at 2:31 p.m. ET

A low libido can mean more than just a pouty husband. It's frustrating for both parties and can cause a serious snag in your emotional connection. But is it normal to have a lack of interest in sex or could it be that your libido is too low? In this excerpt from our new book, SheKnows Presents: The Best Sex of Your Life, we discuss some easy ways to rev your mojo back up to its tip-top, college-days shape.

Lots of things can affect a woman's libido — everything from outside factors such as stress, emotional issues and even childhood issues, to medications and exercise. A change in your libido can be surprising. You may not have had much sexual desire before, but now suddenly find yourself interested in sex at every turn, or you may experience a lowering in your libido where you used to crave sex a fair amount of the time and now you feel disinterested. If you feel your libido is low, take a look at the factors in your life that could be having an effect. Are you on any medications that could lower your sex drive? Are you eating, sleeping and exercising enough? Are you going through tough emotional times? All of these factors are possible culprits, and you might find that a combination of them is wreaking havoc on your sex life.

Here are some proven libido boosters that you can implement right away:


Many times, a low libido is caused simply by a lack of affection and casual touch in non-sexual situations. Hugging, holding hands, or getting a massage without the expectation of sex all have the interesting effect of increasing a woman's sex drive.

Yoga or Tantra

Both yoga and tantra can have the effect of bringing you and your partner into sync emotionally as a couple. Being emotionally in sync is critical for libido in both partners.

Quality Time

Spend time together just doing nothing. Enjoy some casual conversation. Take a long walk. Our lives can be so hectic these days that we even forget to stop and breathe — no wonder we're not interested in sex. Set a goal to spend at least 15 minutes per day, just the two of you, for 30 days and see what a difference it makes.

Better Sex

One of the biggest reasons for not wanting to have sex is boring and unfulfilling sex. Make sure that you and your partner are truly satisfying each other. Talk about what you do and don't like and try new things often. Don't get stuck in a rut!

Eat Healthy

There is an old saying that says we are what we eat and, in regard to libido, foods that taste good but make you feel lazy and lifeless afterward will definitely not get you in the mood. So eat something energizing that makes you want to get up and at 'em in the bedroom.


Sometimes, a woman's body needs more than what she can get from food. This is where supplements come in. Taking a high-quality, natural supplement such as iron, folic acid, calcium, vitamin D, ginseng, black cohosh, chasteberry, l-arginine, ginkgo, or yohimbe, can help to fill in the gaps in your diet and help you prepare for passion.

Buy the book

The Best Sex of Your Life will hit bookstore shelves nationwide in spring 2010. Don't miss out! Reserve yours by pre-ordering today or contact SheKnows for more information.

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