Meet Leo

Oct 28, 2009 at 2:59 p.m. ET

Born: 1981
Hometown: Brooklyn, New York
Occupation: Program coordinator at a non-profit
Relationship status: Single

Leo in New York

About me:

I'm a 28-year-old native New Yorker, born and raised in Brooklyn. My life revolves around music, web design and computer education -- that makes for an interesting and exciting combination. I'm currently working for a non-profit CBO as their program coordinator for an after-school computer enrichment program aimed at helping middle school students explore the many areas of technology.

I also work as a freelance web designer and computer consultant, where I do everything from website development to navigating Twitter and blogging.

I'm also known as Nexeus Fatale, an online DJ in the virtual world Second Life and have been featured in Time Out New York, the documentary Second Skin and BB3N. I DJ weekly events within the virtual world and on occasion at bars and clubs in New York City and throughout the US.

My favorite hobbies including walking across the Brooklyn Bridge, photography and writing. I'm currently single after a string of horrible dates and bad experiences. I tend to find wonderful women who are in completely different locations, or really not-so-great women who are unsure of what they want. I'm seeking a person who can match my creative side along with my musical interests (which range from hip-hop and house to indie-rock and the classics) and love for my cat. If you're interested, my OkCupid profile would be a great place to start.

Q&A with Leo

It's been said there's no such thing as a sensitive, nurturing man who wants to connect emotionally. Men just want sex, plain and simple. Do you think that's true, on the most basic level?
No I don't think that is true on the most basic level. I believe that women are seeking the wrong men, the "bad boy" or the "exciting" "adventurous" type. Guess what? These guys tend to have many different women around them. Women don't give us "nice guys" a chance, but swear they want everything we have. For men, sex is important, but not everything.

What's the ugliest truth about your dating history? (Or dating in general... too predictable? not enough options out there? whatever...)
You are what you appear as! If you're dressed as a ho, you will be treated as one. If you are dressed as a flirty single, you're going to be hit on. If your boobs are hanging out, we men will look and think you're trying to get attention and maybe sex.

Do you believe in love at first sight?
I do, but in New York City it seems more like "love at first $100." I believe you can fall in love with someone immediately. It gets harder each time it doesn't work out, though.

What initially attracts you to a woman?
I would be lying if I did not say looks. The way I look at a woman is how most men look at women. Face/chest, legs, feet, hips, butt. Don't ask why we look at feet -- we do. Some things that stand out with me are height; I love tall women.

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