Have you ever met someone and thought, “I really want to be her friend!” What attracts us to some people more than others? And are there traits we should seek out in relationships? In this article, personal coach Julie Jordan Scott shares with us the secrets of attraction.
Simplicity of attraction Attraction, put quite simply, is that which draws together: people or objects, ideas, products, opportunities.. Many commonly held precepts are borne from this simple definition, such as “like attracts like” and “bird of a feather, flock together.”
Someone casually leaves a scrap of paper on the floor, soon there are multiple scraps of paper on the floor beside it. Without concerted effort, there will soon be a huge pile of scrap paper all over the floor.
It is seen in Junior High Schools across the world. The kids who like this style of music all crowd together. This lunch room table is populated by kids in the computer club and that corner of the hallway is reserved for the jocks.
Positive vs. negative thought There were two women who began their careers at a pharmaceutical company at the same time. They had the same level of education. Their families were from neighboring communities in Suburban New York. One of the women made an effort to attract positive people, attitudes and thoughts into her life. She brought forth almost immediate success.
Her colleague, on the other hand, always thought negatively. She would say to herself, “There are lots of opportunities here at ABC Pharmaceuticals BUT they would never promote me because I am too (insert your favorite negative attribute here). People might talk positively, yet think negatively almost incessantly, feeding the powerful subconscious a steady diet of negativity.”
The book of Proverbs reinforces the law of attraction by stating, “As a man thinks, so is he.”
Invitations to the world What you think, you bring into your life. Subconsciously or consciously, you decide what invitations you send to the world. One step further, you even decide who or what is going to RSVP. Make sure your guest list includes that which you want in your life, rather than what you do not want in your life. There are several simple steps to begin the process of attracting like a magnet exactly what you want to attract. By doing so, you will naturally repel those people, situations, ideas away from yourself as well.
- Be deliberate in your verbal language as well as your self-talk. Listen carefully to what you tell yourself about yourself. When you hear yourself saying something contrary, literally tell yourself “STOP!” and replace it with a different belief, theory or reality.
- Spend time with people who also want to attract positive opportunities into their lives. Have you ever noticed people who focus whole heartedly on “Most people think X” and lament the horrors of “most people” or who complain or nit-pick every small situation on the planet. All day long these people are like a leaking faucet dripping garbage. And what do they attract? More garbage, so they can continue to feed the drip. Avoid them like the plague they produce!
- Take positive action, eliminate negative action. Be sure your positive thoughts are matched by positive actions and positive habits. You will come increasingly magnetic as all the components work in harmony.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow used the metaphor of an arrow and gravity in his view of attraction: “If you would hit the mark, you must aim a little above it; Every arrow that flies feels the attraction of earth.” As you are experimenting with using your magnetism, simply aim high. See what you bring forth. Attract magnetically and magnificently.