I love lesbian porn — and I’m a (mostly) straight woman

Mar 31, 2016 at 8:00 a.m. ET
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Woman-on-woman action always gets me off and I’m not alone. A?2014 report?from the free porn site Pornhub revealed that women were 132 percent more likely than men to search for “lesbian.” According to Bree Mills, creator of Girlsway.com, an all-girl studio, “Lesbian porn is currently among the most watched adult content online.” 

I admit, I consume more porn than the average woman though Mills says it’s being openly watched by more and more people, including women and couples.?I used to review porn for AVN.com; a healthy monthly quota of NSFW material fueled my every fantasy. These days, I have subscriptions to a few porn sites and seek out specific scenarios that excite me on Tumblr. (Keywords are everything.)

The majority of my screen time is spent on girl-on-girl action, though I still watch a decent amount of straight porn. In most cases, hardcore hetero scenes miss the mark when it comes to female pleasure. It’s almost always all about the guy’s sexual conquest. Rarely during oral sex or intercourse scenes do I see the woman’s clitoris getting proper attention — the kind that allows me to buy into a fantasy. Feigned enthusiasm is another big deal breaker. Sex is supposed to be fun and endless penis-in-vagina pounding on a screen does little to excite me. If we're being honest, women's sexual fantasies are more varied than that. Besides, I don’t know a single woman who comes within the first 10 seconds of penetration. It's the lack of these things that makes lesbian porn feel infinitely more believable.

Inarguably, the majority of porn is produced with a male audience in mind but lesbian porn tends to focus more on foreplay, sensuality and the use of sex toys. It usually involves more story-based seduction. Mills places a significant emphasis on creating characters, developing relationships and telling interesting and erotic stories in her scenes. “Our fans have fallen in love with these characters and the emotions that they bring to the sex we film,” she says. “I believe women really connect to this aspect of our content.” 

In such plot-driven porn, it feels like the female leads take a reasonable amount of time to get turned on and could actually climax. “This may be appealing to viewers looking to get off, but not necessarily interested in seeing content they would deem too extreme or find under their father's nightstand,” she says.

In real life, I’m attracted to women, though I rarely act on it. Still, my inner porn-loving voyeur likes to watch girls get it on. Preferably non-Barbie doll-like types who are only playing into the male gaze. Show me a slow tease between two (or more) realistic-looking women, and immediately, I picture myself in the scene. The mental connection is a big piece of the arousal puzzle — both in real life sex and on-screen fantasies. Simply put, a more believable tease goes a long way. Just dabble in watching lesbian porn and you'll see exactly what I mean.

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