Is it possible to grow to love someone over time? Yes. But you have to allow for the time for things to grow. This isn’t easy when passions rule our attractions, when bling is the thing, and relationships are as disposable as a Kardashian headline. The Venus/Neptune sextile on Jan. 30 shows that there’s something to be said for the guy you keep coming back to, the friend who has shown you more understanding than any lover did or the spouse you assumed had checked out of your marriage long ago. Sometimes in our yearning for something better, we can miss out on what’s in front of us. We assume that we know what’s best while ignoring the fact that true love is based on the joys you share, the pains you endured, the times you showed up for each other and the intimacy that only longevity and history can bring.