How to love being alone during the holidays

Whether you just got out of a painful relationship or have been single for years, the holidays are just not very jolly when you are alone. Surrounded by happy couples, your mind will quickly assume that they have so much more than you and that your life is awful. While you wade through the holiday garlands and festivities, here are some tips to keep your chin up — and maybe even get a date for New Year’s Eve.

Don’t judge yourself based on your social status

So many people feel “less than” others because they are single. Coupled people are not gifted with greatness — they are just in a different place. When you really get to know them, you realize that their life has challenges as well.

Focus on the good you have in your life

Being a part of a happy couple is not the end of life’s problems. I know a large part of your life may feel empty, but there are many others who are suffering that have much less than you. Be grateful that you have a job, your health or even had a meal today. Start with the small things and soon you will find many reasons for being blessed right now.

Get into the “person in love” mode

Your life will bring you what you believe. If you keep seeing yourself as a lonely, single person, then that is what your experience will be. Start fooling your inner mind that you are already a person in love. How would you act, dress or feel if you were a person who has met the love of their life? Pretend with internal visualization and watch how your circumstances in the outer world begin to shift.

Remember that your situation is temporary

Life is always changing and just because you haven’t met your dream person up until today, there is absolutely no reason why you couldn’t meet him or her this afternoon or later this week. Keep the attitude as if your wonderful someone is on their way to you right now and you will soon see that.

Last but not least, you can put off all new dating until January!


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